How should I approach talking to my husband about this?

Tell him what you need. Communicate to him how important this is for you, that it matters to you, that you need him to be brave for you and the babies.

I would avoid doing anything that smacks of trying to guilt him into doing anything, though. "You'd do this if you really loved me," or that sort of thing. It sounds like your husband has a bit of a fragile ego.

The best way to approach it, then, I think, would be to appeal to that ego by making him feel needed and wanted.

It's kind of dick thing for him to do, though. He really should be doing whatever you need without, you know, having to be asked.

The last thing you want, is to have the medical team distracted with the guy who just fainted, as wife is giving birth. Some people can't handle it.

I was there for the deliveries, watched as the OB performed the episiotomies, stitched her back up, cut the umbilical cord, etc. Felt surreal, but I was entirely focused on supporting her emotionally, and the baby.

Plus, many men loose sexual attraction to the wife after seeing what they had to see in delivery room. Let your anesthesiologist take care of your emotions..

Ohhhhhh, fuck... Whhaaatttt? ... Really?? ... How are you handling it? Are you upset about it? I guess my first reaction would be to learn more about his thinking/reasoning behind that statement. I'd try to stay calm (though that would hurt a lot, to hear that) and ask him why. And maybe just hope that he'd be able to be there, when the time comes. He's gonna be with you, anyway, I would imagine, face-to-face. Not like he's gonna catch the torpedo comin' right outta the fire piston.

Does he know he doesn’t have to be down there watching the actual birthing process?

He needs to man the fuck up, youre gonna need him there with you

Just be honest about how important his support is to you. Frankly, I think it's unfair that he helped you make these children and doesn't even know if he can put his own hesitations aside to be there for you during their birth. He's equally responsible for them. It's not like he needs to watch the birth, he can just hold your hand.

Nope, leave him outside. What emotionally you talking about? They most likely will put you to sleep for this and do a c section. Or do you really want to give this poor guy the trauma of his life seeing you pushing out two?????? I would never have my husb. in unless he was the midwife

I was present for the birth of my three children, including a set of twins. I would not have missed the experience for anything. It was wonderful to behold.

I was a stay at home dad for over eleven years.

Tell your husband how important it is to you, and how important it will be for him.

He can stand by your head and not see anything.

I think you should be asserting your rights here - he needs to be there. Its not about him when your'e giving birth. Id be persuading him.

I’d try to understand his feelings but make your needs clear as well. Unless he just cannot cope and his presence is going to create more issues than it solves, this is definitely one of those times when you would be justified in saying he doesn’t have a choice.

Maybe watch some birthing videos together so he understands whats going to happen. Perhaps talk to a therapist about his fears and see if you can get him over them.

Why the heck would he NOT want to be there?
Any way, yes, I would.adress the issue, try to find out why.

Yes what is wrong with him ... a fucking wimp

Tell him he does not have to look down to see all the action of birth but can look at you and help you through it. I was there when my twins were born and there was so much going on you really dont have time to concentrate on any one thing

Depends on the culture and on the guy. Most likely you will not need him as you will be focusing on other things. As long as he is there outside the room you will be fine. And if you do need him then tell his name, trust me, he will barge inside and be there.

Listen to his side as well.

Yea it's not selfish to expect your sperm donor to be there in the delivery room... If he won't you need to rethink your sperm donor choices...

Tell him to sit beside you,away from the business end. Then he's there to support you.
I do know some guys who didn't attend the births of there kids,but it was mutually agreed with there partners,and they took there mum or best friend in,instead.
Goof luck

Poor guy.

Maybe he’s afraid of seeing you in pain.... you going natural?

He needs to be there for you. What is his reason for not being able to handle it? His part is easy.

What????! If I were your hubby, I'd be there! Shit, he was there when you all did the fuckin!

Yes, ask him to be there for you, or at least as long as he can possibly stay in the room.

Why is he not able to handle it?