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I've seen many guys on the internet complain about females wanting to do things that consist of not staying home, per se...

I'm not meaning that a couple has to go out All The Time, what I mean is it appears to be A Lot of the time the guys want to stay home to do nothing (or do the same mundane things repeatedly). It seems they want to go out with the female in the beginning but soon changes to a "comfortable" (for lack of a better word) level of... doing nothing at all. Staring at the same 4 walls majority of the time.

I can stare at the same 4 walls by myself just fine. Why add someone else into the scene to do that?

So if I can do more for/with myself while alone what's the point in dating/entering into a relationship.

(*I am aware this may come off the wrong way when I mention it about guys but it can be the opposite as well :) )
dreamsicle · 46-50, F
I’m lucky in that sense. My guy will try anything I recommend and he’s more spontaneous than me but I’m working on it.
dreamsicle · 46-50, F
@MarkPaul 😁
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@dreamsicle Lol ok
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@dreamsicle You're going to be a star! Oh, wait...that's me. You're going to be a smiling fool.
TheGreatLeveler · 31-35, M
I always prefer to pursue activities outdoors and would appreciate anyone who has that influence on me. It depends though. On workdays I rather just stay in and rest and sometimes you might need to save up.
dreamsicle · 46-50, F
@TheGreatLeveler Totally understandable .
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@TheGreatLeveler That leads me to yet another question... just how much does money play a part in dating/relationships. I know there can be creative cheap ways to do things together. But, how much does money play a part when one can afford to do more than the other can?

As for workdays - I think it depends on what type of work each are involved in as to how much and what kind of energy they may have to do things not only during the week but also on weekends. Sometimes, it can be difficult to try to fit a lot in on only weekends depending on family, friends, the couples' time together alone, so forth
So why dont you make a suggestion - why is it the mans job of always finding things to do ?
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@MarmeeMarch Did I say it was? Did I say I didn't?
I think there are varying degrees of extroverts and introverts in the world.

I consider myself a social introvert. I dated someone who was an extrovert and it was [i]exhausting[/i].

I think knowing who you are and finding someone to match your energy is a good idea. They say opposites attract - LOL. Opposites may attract but eventually repel one another. ☺
Cloud7593 · 46-50, F
@lilteacup Sometimes the 2 opposites can be good for each other. An extrovert gets the introvert moving and the introvert can slow the extrovert down when needed. Of course if the 2 is at extremes it's as you say, repel each other.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@lilteacup I think that's a good point mentioning introverts and extroverts.

Personally, I consider myself to be both... depending on the situation. I find it exhausting to try to get someone out of their "shell" to go do things...
Snow33 · 36-40, F
I understand its frustrating.
That's not a gender thing, it's two people who have been in a relationship for a few years where one or both refuse to compromise
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@MushroomFaerie I did put a disclaimer about 'gender' at the end there. :)
@Phire1 Oh sorry, I confess I skimmed
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@MushroomFaerie I think compromising is always a good thing
SW-User
Once the sex is catered for, well freeeeee time, to do nothing at all! There's nothing surpasses it!😁
@SW-User Well this explains a lot.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@lilteacup LOL!

Yeah, cause sex is supposedly everything (not)
Cloud7593 · 46-50, F
They just want companionship while they do nothing I guess.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
They might be introverts. Not a good mix for you.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@SweetMae The last ex was... not a good mix for me (along with his being insecure, having social anxiety, etc., etc.). However, I've dated extroverts as well and sometimes that was a bit much, too.
This post isn't solely about myself, though. It's also about what I've noticed others/guys say on the internet...
DDonde · 31-35, M
I think it's just a difference of interests. Most of the things I enjoy doing in my down time are done at home.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@DDonde Do you think the things you enjoy doing on your down time at home are also things a S/O can engage you within, too?

 
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