how do you make someone want to spend time with you?

i told my bf i wanted to go out with him tonight but he got mad at me and said that he wanted to spend time with his friends tonight. its friday night and hes ditching me. 😭 how can i make him want to choose me instead of his friends?

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GlitterBug · 22-25, F

It’s not really about you vs his friends. If you want to spend time with him and he has other plans it’s not going to happen and it shouldn’t have to, you should plan ahead a little and make plans with him when he doesn’t already have any. Maybe when he isn’t busy talk to him about that and see what will work so you can spend more time together without having to sacrifice either of your friendships in the process

Majorlatency · M

You can't. He is what he is.. If you see this trend now perhaps he isn't as serious as you in this relationship....

kate21 · 26-30, F

some people just need one person to be happy, and some people need lots of people to be happy.

sounds like he does want to spend time with you (you do live together, after all), but he needs to spend time with friends as well.

If i can be blunt, you need to learn to be okay with that. Relationships are about give and take.

HannahBannah · 22-25, F

@kate21 yea but going out is different. hell go out with his friends but not me?

kate21 · 26-30, F

@HannahBannah he needs some guy times. just like us girls, guys need time with their friends. they get something different out of those relationships, not better just different, and they can talk about guy things.