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Are there men who really WILL fight for love?

And I mean if there’s an obvious connection, maybe you’ve been together for a while and things are shaky...or, maybe you see the potential and know she’s been hurt so there are walls up?

For me, I’ve always been the one to fight for it. With my ex husband, I tried for so many years. Talked to him about it, went to marriage therapy, gave romance, etc... but he never tried to fight for it with me. With an ex boyfriend it was the same thing. These are just my experiences so I’m genuinely curious...

Are there men that would reciprocate? Or be persistent enough not to give up so easily?

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Miram · 31-35, F

There are men who would stand by you no matter what. Understand your flaws and character defects and understand their own wants from the relationship and their own capabilities. Strong individuals fight for their loved ones.

Some after losing you, they want to fight 🙆 they want to make it right.

Some only fight for what they can never have. They long for an idea they created about you. A delusion of you and of a potential life.

The more deluded the love, the quicker you fall out of it.

So many can't learn to appreciate their attainments, want more, better..

This applies to both sexes.

UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M

@Miram Well said.

ajsk13 · 51-55, M

fighting might be the wrong term , maybe nurturing a relationship, unfortunately the most important part is a persons character, without a moral compass it's kinda a waste of time..his character should tell you if he is one that will swim through shark infested waters for you if need be without asking..It's the same for a woman..her personality and character is everything, more so than looks

JerseyGal · 51-55, F

I don't know that I'd call it fighting for love. Maybe tenacious, determined. I was stubborn and determined when I was married and gave my all while trying to save it.
I truly believe there are men and women who will do all they can to keep a relationship alive. While there are others who simply walk away. It's easy to give up and walk away. I've always felt that if someone truly loves another, it's not shown just by words. It's by their actions. Seeing someone give up and walk away shows a lot. I admit that I did finally walk away, but I also know that I tried my best and for those 10 years, my best was never and would never be enough.

JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

I rarely see men fight for love anymore, maybe its societt that changed them when most relationships are disposable

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JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

@TenderHeart im starting to believe chivalry is dead

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TenderHeart · 46-50, F

Can you go find mine to ride in? I think he got lost 😂

SW-User

If you are fighting to convince them to love... I think you’re fighting yourself.

The only thing you can do to fight and capture someone’s interest is to better yourself.

If you become a better person while not showing interest in them... they will notice and fall in love... or it’s time to walk away.

SlightedSmile · 51-55, M

Yes. I do. I've run across some issues the opposite way. Many women my age are not willing to fight for it. Wouldn't it be nice to have two people willing to be vunerable and intimate and commit to the union. Looking for that myself.

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@SlightedSmile I’m your age and that’s all I’ve done lol

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TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@FelixLegion I relate to that last statement!

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summersong · F

I dunno...I’ve been the one to fight in the past and I’ve definitely wanted to be worth fighting for but I’m starting to feel like if it needs fighting for maybe it’s not the right thing.

jazzits · 61-69, M

@summersong I agree, love is not something you should have to fight for. Nor should it be taken for granted. It requires some attention and work to keep it really good. It should be nurtured and relatively easy. If not then I would question whether or not it is a good fit.

Shadowhunter · 31-35, M

I lost my family, literally.
I'd give everything and anything to have them back. People give up on love too easy this day and age.
Love is not disposable, people shouldn't be so quick to just throw it all away.

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Qwerty14

Ive fought long and hard for relationships yet I'm still single. I think if the relationship is going to end maybe just let it

NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

Wondering this same thing myself...

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SteelHands · 61-69, M

That's because you don't listen .

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@SteelHands “you women”?
It sounds like you’re generalizing. Not all women are the same. And if you believe they are, than you’re part of the problem and not the solution.

SteelHands · 61-69, M

@TenderHeart let me clarify something that might be politically uncorekt to say even though its true.

There are things all women have in common, and not all of them are physical and 99% of men are different.

Same goes for men all having several things that 99.9999% men are similar or same about but 99.999% of women are absolutely unlike.

You, if you think men and women are only different physically you aren't a problem but you are ignorant.

One more thing. You're problems are yours. You can have them.

Mine aren't caused by me opting to follow the lies of a society wide brainwashing programs so mine are simple and solved soon as they happen.

If women want to be dumb and live by a herd mentality it's not a problem. At least not to me.

I can live with it if you can. Someone asked about men fighting to keep a relationship.

I have given my opinion. Reject it at will. I know better than think women are barely better than teenagers when it comes to solid reasoning.

To you I'm just another liar since if this were fact it wouldn't sound so harsh and painful to hear.

Thanks for visiting reality. Sorry you didn't enjoy what's here in fact land.

Happy trails.

Lol

Jimgeneration60 · 61-69, M

I'd say today in society yes I'm going to say good Christian gentalmen above age 40 and understand women as much life. Although I'm 60 and in 60 years. Not once have I ever observed a man that gone bonker crazy bragging how special a wife has been to him. Nor ever seen a lady say fantastic compliments about her man. Isn't life strange from beginning to end of life.

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@Jimgeneration60 I’ve actially encountered both men and women talking about how awesome and amazing their significant other is

Jimgeneration60 · 61-69, M

@TenderHeart well that's good to hear. But it's a rare things age 37 to 21. Over 40 sure

SteelHands · 61-69, M

To fight for a relationship anymore a man must risk sexual harassment charges, stalking accusations, being accused falsely of things he didn't do and even prison time.

The normal heterosexuals are screwed these days.

No sane male wants to risk being tossed into prison over a woman.

Miram · 31-35, F

@SteelHands and this is about everyone? Every single woman would resort to false charges?

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@SteelHands Not everyone is that way though. To generalize may mean they’re letting go and walking away from something that could be amazing

SteelHands · 61-69, M

The depths of human depravity are stunning.

LovelyMe · F

I think they exist but I sure don't know where to find one.

wintersecret · 41-45, M

In my case, we both are doing the same for each other.
Meant to say dont wanna giveup on the lovely relationship we have.

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wintersecret · 41-45, M

@TenderHeart i completely agree.

We cannot clap with One Hand. it takes Two to Tango similarly in relationship

One-side Efforts always end up on bad side and the giver looses everything including Self esteem and confidence unless the person don't take right decision.

Sorry, hope my words dont hurt your sentiments..

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

No, I agree

wintersecret · 41-45, M

@TenderHeart Frankly, i have seen Some Woman continues to be in the train which leads them to nowhere with hopes still high for reaching the destination.

I used to Wonder Why then realized that
they have forgone own self for the Family and kids.

Just wish that the good deeds they did for family should be rewarded well..