I guess I should wait to put myself out there? I keep remembering how life is right now. My...

djjohnson · 41-45, M

We all desire to be understood. The less we think the people around us understand us the more alone we feel even when in a crowd of friends. The hardest part though is letting someone in deep enough that they get to know you. It's risky...because the more we let some one in, the more we fear. And fear can often make us do things to sabotage ourselves.

puck61

dAMN! You're in exactly the same boat I'm in, even with the dog. Too bad I'm an old fart. You're very pretty. My apartment is well furnished and well stocked and my bed is huge. I can carry on a conversation and play guitar and sing. ....and I cook good too! I would write love songs that would melt the heart of the right person, but here I am alone......me and my dog. I love my dog, but she doesn't really meet my needs all the way. I hope you find the right person. I hope I do too!!

I can play a damn good psychologist though. Maybe we can have fun with this misery!

nonsensiclesnail · F

I've met very few people online who were not lonely.

Hell, I talk to very few people in person who are not lonely.

If you've got a good friend, work hard to keep them. If you have family that you can tolerate, work hard to keep them close, even when you feel unappreciated and used. They are family and you will need them/ they will need you.

Fallflower · 46-50, F

You sound like a responsible person. I don’t know if you need to be 100% financially stable in order to date. The fact that you’re working on it counts for a lot. No point in being lonely.

firefall · 61-69, M

We all do - humans aren't generally built to be isolated*, we're mostly gregarious and like people around, to make us feel like someone cares, like we're important to someone.

SoggedNapped · 31-35, M

YEs..actually.. put yourself out there, but be honest...

Say to them what you said here.. I am nervous about it..and it has to be pretty casual (being physical or not is part of that ) But yea, def... it can bring joy too :)

SoggedNapped · 31-35, M

..sorry, but needing someone to be with as a partner is a thing that mammalians experience. Life is about sharing and discovering.... it is a much biological as it is emotional and mentally driven.

LyricalOne · F

Haven’t been around friends. Haven’t been able to connect well with family.

Shouldn’t take a mental health professional to help figure out why you’re lonely.

Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

the frurustration of everything else going wrong,the thought of an extra body is relief.

EnigmaticGeek · 61-69, M

I know how you feel (or felt, if things have since changed for you) with not having anyone to fall asleep with. I'm in that same boat at present, but I'm looking...

To answer your question, you need to love yourself as much as you'd want someone in your life to love you. If it takes therapy for you to get to that place, I think it would be money well spent. The type of person who is ultimately attracted to you depends significantly on how you feel about yourself.

KaiserSolze · 46-50, F

Because you're spending alot of time alone.

Mysteriousliaisons · 56-60, M

Wanna come lay on my couch and tell me more 😏.