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Past Abuse

I was sexually abused in the recent past before my current relationship and now I'm in an amazing relationship with this indescribably amazing girl. I've told her about it, but I still don't know all my triggers. What if something happens where I'm triggered in the moment?
WeighedDown · 36-40, M
Just tell her when you are triggered because if you don't it will happen again and again, and it can destroy the relationship. I have come to understand that once I become intimate with someone I feel an obligation to share details about my past and believe it or not it tends to only make the relationship harder. I think I will keep my secret in my next relationship and see how that works for me..
MikeSp · 56-60, M
Since you have already told her about the abuse, you should explain triggers. If any GF is mature and compassionate, she will understand and support you. If not, let her go. She will want assurances you are getting better, so seeing a qualified therapist or attending a support group is a good thing.

 
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