Chatting online is cheating?

@Spoiledbrat Lookimg at a video doesn't mean appeal is gone for one's significant other. And you overlook the fact that Playgirl was printed for a reason. Women look too--and get arroused---too.

@anythingoes477 Chat doesn’t always limit itself to typing.

Don’t assume you know how I look at it.

For [i]some[/i] people fantasies remain fantasies. If you can keep a lid on that, good for you. Many people’s fantasies do eventually get lived out. Fantasies are nothing more than desires, desires many feel they can’t express in their current reality. However, that doesn’t mean their fantasy couldn’t [i]be[/i] a reality.

Obviously, I don’t chase down movie stars. For starters, other than enjoying their physical attributes, I don’t fantasize about people on a screen. I [i]have[/i] thought about other people. Luckily none of those people have ever expressed any similar desire toward me, because if they did I would find it difficult to turn away.

Which is why boundaries get set in the first place because the greater the chance of opportunity, the greater threat to your relationship. People may be online but they can easily arrange to meet. Feelings can (and do) develop. It all really depends on what is being discussed, and the situation. Some people are very private and keep things very limited (it sounds like you might), others take things further.

You have a guy whose wife doesn’t give him sex at home. He uses chat as a way to get relief. He starts chatting with a woman. They hit it off. They begin talking everyday and he starts wishing he was with this woman so he could express himself in person. He professes his desires to her, they even contemplate how they would meet. Though, it is not likely they ever will. If you were in this situation and had somebody on the other side of the screen wanting you, giving you attention, you can’t tell me that isn’t a recipe for an online affair.

I’m not saying it has to be a bad thing. It could be avoided, though, if they were open about it with their partner. Are you against openness?

@Spoiledbrat I agree. They can.

@midnightrose ....but serious or not?

@Paddy888888 How badly would they take it if they saw it and found out?

What is being said to other people, how long have they been doing it without their spouse knowing, is it more than chitchat, etc.

Depending on the context I’d say anywhere from mildly annoyed to being confronted with serious questioning.

Privacy? Maybe they need someone to talk to or confide in. @StarLily

@Spoiledbrat I need that a lot too, and my boyfriend knows about it, I don't have to do it without him knowing about it or vice versa. If we both felt we had to hide it from each other then I don't think we would want a relationship with each other... but that's our feelings on it, is different for everyone.

@JupiterDreams I think you can assume yes to the flirting...but no to the arrangements

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@BemyValentine what if its sex...with the opposite sex?

@Terrance what would be a bad thing to say?

@Paddy888888 'Does my penis look big in this? '

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@FelixLegion ...what counts as 'way over the top'?

@bijouxbroussard maybe there are some things you can only say to strangers?

@Paddy888888 Maybe. But hiding things from one’s partner with a third party is dishonesty. Especially if there would be an objection to the [b]partner[/b] doing it.