Is finding a relationship after all just a matter of luck?

I think lovelywarpedlemon explained it quite well. Like don't put all your eggs in one basket. If you do then you are setting yourself up for expectations that may not be fulfilled to your liking.

I would suggest being yourself, try not to put all your energy into one particular category or person. Just be you and let them find you. You don't want to be fake and be something that your not because then the other person would be drawn to that, everything that is not you and then the relationship would be something based on what is not real. I think when one is exactly themselves then it is yourself that is attracting them to you. If you mask yourself behind a fake persona then your attracting someone to that unrealistic personality your portraying. Then if the relationship goes anywhere, it becomes something based on not so real circumstances, which ultimately becomes a lie. You don't want to be in a relationship that is based on a lie, right? Because there is never a good result from that.

Just be true to yourself and be who are, if someone likes you then you will know they like you for who you are and not for what you appear to be.

I've heard that working on yourself draws healthy and available people to you. (Maybe not in those words, but that's the idea.) Are you doing anything for yourself? Hobbies? Do you go out and meet people face-to-face? Or is all your energy focused on finding someone that will make everything better for you? Sorry to be harsh, but if you're not healthy and available yourself, then you won't be able to draw or recognize someone who is healthy and available... This probably sounds like a load of bullshit, and I don't mean to assume anything about you. Maybe it could help you.

yeah a girl smiles at you you talk to her its really luck to be honest