Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Would you stay if someone you were married to totally changed? Is love really till death do us part?

What is someone you married fundamentally changed - do you stay or do you go? I guess what's am asking is does ANYONE believe in marriage as binding anymore?. If change can cause a divorce then how little change can be grounds for a divorce?
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
The only true grounds for a divorce is sexual unfaithfulness. I have been married to the same lovely woman for 40 years and I don't want to leave her even though her cognitive abilities have been drastically altered by chemo.
RubySoo · 56-60, F
@ravenwind43 thank you....I may well do xx
Genieinabottle · 51-55, M
Abandoning your spouse emotionally is the worst. My wife went to bed for two solid years. She abandoned me and my son imo. I hated her for that. Our marriage went sideways because of it. - now, to be fair I did lose faith in the marriage after a year of it and have an emotional affair and a physical affair but I felt like my wife had checked out of the marriage way before me. If she went back to bed again I wouldn't leave but I don't know what I would domi can tell you that staying in a broken marriage is awful.@ravenwind43
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
@Genieinabottle Very well said.
This comment is hidden. Show Comment
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I am staying until my chance to go....so put no down for me. I've hung in WAYYYY longer than I should have, or most would.
RubySoo · 56-60, F
I have changed so very much since I married....my husband has too...but not nearly as much as me.
As a 50 year old woman much of what I believe, want, need....is so different to the 21 year old girl he met all those years ago.
Hes still in love with me....or....maybe he's still in love with that girl he met....because he buries his head entirely when I try to tell him his differently I feel these days. He doesn't get me anymore.....and I don't get him....at all.
But.. we are still here...plodding on. I stay because he wants me here x
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
People who totally change after marriage most likely were putting on an act before marriage for some reason or another. So they never revealed their true self to begin with, just a type of manipulation to get whatever they wanted as a marriage of convenience for them.
Projecthonest · 41-45, F
When I took my vows, I meant every word. However, I would not stay if I wasn’t happy, I can see what that does to other people, as an onlooker.
Genieinabottle · 51-55, M
It sucks all the will to live out of you.@Projecthonest
Projecthonest · 41-45, F
I actually can’t imagine having to live like that tbh. @Genieinabottle
TheConstantGardener · 56-60, M
I'm not sure that anyone undergoes a "fundamental" change, unless they've suffered a brain injury.

It's more likely to be small changes to both parties that lead to things breaking down. People can grow apart, I guess.
Genieinabottle · 51-55, M
@TheConstantGardener trauma - emotional - can change people.
Genieinabottle · 51-55, M
My marriage counselor was all about marriage as a binding union. Regardless of what happens - maintain the marriage. He said it was a duty to stay not something we feel or no longer feel.
SW-User
I think people can change somewhat within the marriage . it happens . I think its about acceptance of that person . with in reason ,of course
SW-User
Of course not. But kind of hardly stay the same after all those years. I'm sure you have changed as well.
NankerPhelge · 61-69, M
No, I would not. Change [i]is[/i] death as far as I'm concerned.
SW-User
Divorce should be easier, not harder.
Goralski · 51-55, M
Like if she gained 20 pounds
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
That is part of the reason why I am divorced.

 
Post Comment