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Is this a sign he faded me out of his life?

We talked intensely for days we racked up 12hours of talking time in just 4 days.
I let him do the chasing.
We finally went on our first date on the Monday and it was amazing we just clicked.

We met up again for a walk on the Tuesday night. Although we agreed to wait to sleep together it didn't feel wrong we were both a little nervous or at least I was... and we made love...
We ended up spending the whole of Wednesday together in bed.

He wanted to see me again on the Thursday but cancelled he mentioned having his daughter last minute.
He then went on to suggest Friday night.
I explained my mother would be round and that it might not work unless he wanted to come over later...
I had noticed that he was a little different though he would usually text me first thing where as what had turned into a competition on who could text first changed to me texting and him not responding until hours later.

He called in the afternoon on Friday and mentioned being at work probably going to finish a little late due to a job (he's a plumber)
Probably wouldn't be free until 7.30 or later. I suggested that he call me when he was done as my mum hasn't called.

He called again at 5 to 6 and said his daughters mum hadn't picked her up and he would need to.
He left it as he'd call me later...
My mum came and went...
But there was no word. Something he'd done for a second night running.

I could have text or called him but I felt like I was being pushy if I disturbed him plus I didn't want to seem like I couldn't find something to do without him.
I watched a film and crashed out.

Overnight I updated my phone and my whatsapp wasn't working properly, my friends mentioned my image and status not displaying.

I've since managed to fix it.

Half the days come and gone and neither of us have made contact.

I think I should have listened to him when he said he didn't want to sleep with me too soon as it may cause him to lose interest...
He also I think I also should have listened to him when he said he was scared about committing.
I should of also kept my mouth shut and not said I wanted to still go on my tinder dates to rule everyone out. (But not saying felt like i was cheating)
I also think I should have followed my gut when I thought he was acting odd and asked him if we were cool...


I've never dated a Sagittarius guy and his behaviour has totally thrown me it was so intense and we got on. Everything seemed to be going at a good rate.
It's okay. You show him that you're busy with your work and life too. If he's really worthy of you, he won't treat you like he's doing right now. I mean, communication is key.
I always advice my friends in such situations that it's glad you don't have a kid with him yet. I mean there are cases where the girl got pregnant and then this happened.
Sagi's are usually flirty by fluke. I hope you date somebody else just to get over him. It's necessary, or else you'll keep suffering.
@Peppa Hmmm.... Always keep your options open, that ways you have the upper hand. It's important as we women are the emotional type.
Maybe he does this usually.... Do you want such a loose charactered man as boyfriend? 🤔
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Vivaci definitely not!!!
@Peppa Exactly!!! So always look at these red signals... And although it may seem really tough and sad now, it's only good you move on.
SW-User
never dated. probably never will as i dont trust people in general. most people are just in it for the sex and nothing else. no commitment all instant gratification. known so many women who just fool around now its not worth getting close to anyone. but if you were looking for a commitment and he said he didnt want one or was scared about commitment. you must have a feeling like it wasnt going to work out. when you guys talked and if the guy just talks about sex a lot. back away because thats all he is interested in and once he gets it he's gone. sex can make people stop being interested or it can make things awkward or make people attached. so having sex early in the relationship can be a really bad thing. i dont believe in horoscopes. its just youre personalities or wants were different. plus you wanting to still use tinder for hook ups while seeing someone isnt a good idea if you want a relationship.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@SW-User thank you for commenting.
OK so when we first started talking it was very all above board. I grilled him about his wants and desires. His situation with his daughters mum, current living situation, work situation etc. He passed the questions asked. He also passed because he wanted a relationship and wanted to date.
There were some teething issues with him finding the time to meet up.
But once we did we had already established a level of comfortable rapport. We clicked. we both liked our innuendos and euphemisms.
But as we went to a gallery there was a lot of stuff that we shared and knowledge that we poured into one another. He even had us reading in public.
We didn't touch or kiss until we got to the station 6 hours later. It was soft and gentle. I unfortunately ended up grazing his erection, when the train stopped.
Since then we've discussed marriage, what bee want for our future together, agreed on how many children.
He's proposed to me in jist by placing my ring on my wedding finger.
He's given me silly gifts like the trophy he won when he went go karting.
After we slept together things started to feel different and I became more paranoid I guess.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Communication is EVERYTHING.
It's unfortunate that guys are so often really bad at it !
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Picklebobble2 he knows himself better and regardless, a part of me feels like this would have happened even if it was a month later. But been harder, why because we a freakishly similar and he kept battling between his like and wanting more with me. Small things he was saying
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@Peppa It's a shame.
But, there are plenty more fish in the sea. As they say.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Picklebobble2 yep... as I said to @SW-User he pushed and I slowly followed... I was played
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Peppa · 31-35, F
@ThaGeminII yes if he's genuine.
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JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@ThaGeminII this is all really bs. Im a sag and not like that at all. This is no way to gauge who people are.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@JaggedLittlePill I disagree since reading about traits of a sag man this is top of the list
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UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M
A major lesson I've learned in relationships: [i][u][b]Never[/b][/u][/i] ignore red flags.
Peppa · 31-35, F
@UndeadPrivateer that's the problem what seemed like red flags were constantly contradicted
UndeadPrivateer · 31-35, M
@Peppa Sure, they almost always [i]seem[/i] to be. But that's the thing, no one wants to trip other people's red flags, so they're generally going to be actively working [i]not[/i] to do that and make it a point to show they aren't [u]even if they are[/u].

To put it in other words: A liar can always [i]say[/i] they're telling the truth, duplicity is common among humans of all sorts. Astrological signs has nothing to do with any of this.
Terrance · 41-45, M
I'd say none of what you have done has had any impact. You could have held off sleeping with him and you may still be in a good place with him... But... If he has gotten distant now, he would have at some point in the near future anyway
Terrance · 41-45, M
@Peppa that's good... We all do it... I'm the worst
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Terrance I liked him, there was massive sexual chemistry, we were so a like on so much. He came across just as keen.
He wasn't pushy, we both agreed to take the plunge this early. Maybe it was an act but he was really nervous. He even wanted to stay that night again by almost falling asleep. We talked once he got in. So it was him not me.
Terrance · 41-45, M
@Peppa I agree
Tres13 · 51-55, M
'I think I should have listened to him when he said he didn't want to sleep with me too soon as it may cause him to lose interest...'
Peppa · 31-35, F
@Tres13 he kept talking with euphemisms. When I tried to keep topics clean. I totally get that. And i don't regret it because I had fun. I just feel upset that what felt like a good connections has now gone to waste because of it.
SW-User
So sorry 🌼 I get the feeling he moved on,
but I could be wrong
Peppa · 31-35, F
@SW-User probably has its cool. It is what it is.
SW-User
Hug
Peppa · 31-35, F
@SW-User annoying really we went from him instigating us planning our future, him placing my ring on my engagement finger, to agreeing we will live on a farm, pinky promise to have 3 kids, to referring to me as Mrs ....
To this.
If he ran scared it was him.
I told him I still wasn't sure even if he was doing the right things.
Because I've been hurt and it's nice to dream. But reality isn't always as easy.
But he insisted I was top of the list for him

 
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