I Need Advice On Relationships

I just wanted to give a few tips to men about how to chat with women online. From the messages I get I sometimes cringe at what I read. So I figure it may help a few people. Obviously, not all women will not agree with me here but I figure many will.

Here we go:
1. Stop with the superlatives. I'm not the prettiest/sexiest/hottest/cutest/(insert word)est woman you've ever seen. Any man that says these things I know wants only one thing, to get into your pants, which on the internet means see pics of you/nudes. Which leads to the next point.

2. Don't ask for pics too soon and don't send pics expecting someone to reciprocate. Asking too soon just shows what you are really after and its usually not to be friends.

3. Be the one to keep the conversation engaging and don't ask vague questions. Some of the most annoying questions I get are so vague. This might just be me, but I will purposefully not put time into answering the question because it was just a poorly asked question.

For now that's all I've got.

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stound

this seems like an odd tutorial, but hope it helps someone.

queenchloe · 22-25, F

@stound I wouldn't call it a tutorial, just tips to combat my biggest pet peeves of messages I receive. And I'm sure other women will agree.

stound

@queenchloe maybe. it'd seem to me I'd rather just have that out of the way and out in the open. sort of an 'oh? that's the only topic you have that you can discuss? well this is a huge time saver, thank you' sorta moment.

queenchloe · 22-25, F

@stound not sure what you are referring to

stound

@queenchloe like if they start out demanding pics, or just outright telling you hey, I wanna talk about nothing but sex. if that's how they are/are going to be (e.g. asking for pics too soon just shows what you're really after), I'd kinda prefer to have that upfront, rather than pussyfooting around for 10 days feigning interest in other stuff, if the only interest is in a topic I have no interest in discussing. I'm not sure if I'm making it more or less clear.

queenchloe · 22-25, F

@stound so basically what you are saying is, you are only interested in talking about sex and only on here to see nudes.

stound

@queenchloe no. but I am saying that if I had roles reversed... and you only wanted to talk about sex and I did not... that I would appreciate a directness so as to not mislead/spend a lot of time building connection when the only topic of intesrest is one I don't wanna talk about.

make it more direct and relatable to me, and not have anything to do with sex: I dig photography. I'm always interested in talking about the physics, light, shots, whatever. say someone else really likes, very specifically, the film development process. the chemicals, the dark room, et al. I know nothing about it, I have no input. rather than spending many days talking about photography, trying to coax me into a conversation about development and chemicals, I'd rather that they tell me that a. this is all they wanna talk about and b. this is the topic.

queenchloe · 22-25, F

@stound ok but deciding on what to talk about has nothing to do with any of my 3 tips.