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If you send someone a selfie after you’ve been texting back & forth consistently for a full hour...

and they don’t respond or comment about your selfie right away, do you automatically think they’re no longer interested in you?

If someone sends me pics, I do my best to respond right away because I don’t want them to think that I thought anything bad of their selfie.

I’m not referring to someone who sends you d pics out of the blue, but someone you’ve been talking to for a while.
pentacorn · F
you, in particular, are a very conscientious person, and i assume you are texting with a male.

although it might cross my mind that they might not be interested, it's more likely they're staring at the pic, then trying to take a decent one to send back.
pentacorn · F
@marsbar yep. it's amazing how chemistry, or lack of it, is detectable via texting.
marsbar · F
@pentacorn Awww I’m sorry. I do hope you experience that again.

Yes, & it often just takes a few minutes even to sense chemistry over text or not.
pentacorn · F
@marsbar thank you. 💜
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Several possibilities on this.

Maybe something has come up and they're dealing with something else at the moment.
Maybe they're doing an image search to see if you 'pop up' anywhere else on social media and are reading/researching other sites you might be on.
Maybe they're taking all the details you've given them so far; coupled with your freely submitted photo and are creating a fake identity for nefarious purposes.

I'm suspicious by nature, this is what i'd be wondering
marsbar · F
@Picklebobble2 Lol. Lots I possibilities I guess.
SW-User
😞. Think positive! They might be busy jerking off to it
marsbar · F
@SW-User I know. I love Canadians too. 🤭
SW-User
@marsbar yeah we know 😁
marsbar · F
@SW-User 😛
SW-User
I never send a pic of any kind unless someone asks for one. And once it's out there, their reaction to it is out of my hands, so I try not to worry about it.
SW-User
@marsbar I can't send you a message. Must be because we aren't friends
marsbar · F
@SW-User Hmmm. Well I was teasing about sending a selfie unless you wanted to post it on this thread, which I don’t think you’d want to. 😁
SW-User
@marsbar correct
KuroNeko · 41-45, F
I had a guy stop talking to me after I sent him one once. He text back the next morning saying he changed his mind about me. It was pretty crushing lol.
marsbar · F
@KuroNeko I’m sorry. In situations like that, just say to yourself, “Eff him. He wasn’t for me. I deserve better.” 🙂
KuroNeko · 41-45, F
@marsbar what's funny is that we ended up staying friends for years with him hoping for more and me not being bothered 😂
marsbar · F
@KuroNeko Lol. That can happen too. It goes to show you how important personality is.
💀 I literally commented this one the wrong post at first Mars. Anyway here

I guess it would depend, because there are times I’m not able to respond right away due to my work schedule and it was similar to a guy I dated previously. But, if they started responding slower after I sent the pic and their reaction wasn’t a good one or very responsive...I probably would feel a bit insecure afterwards. There was a guy I dated who didn’t really compliment me much, and that bothered me a lot, and I realized I like a guy who compliments me every now again especially when I dress up. If I’m with a guy I like him to be attracted to me and show/express that.
marsbar · F
@Stark I agree with you. I’m not comfortable with compliments all the time, but once in a while, it’s appreciated, especially if I take the time to fix myself up.
If they had asked for a pic or we were consistently talking and then I've sent it but took a while to reply I would also think they just didnt like it. If I sent it randomly and didnt know whether they were active or not then no. Or if they had told me while we were talking that they're working /busy with something then not quite either. But yeah I literally check my phone every so often in case I have missed msgs from him while ignoring a 100 other ppl 😂 it really depends on many things
marsbar · F
@PepsiColaP Yes. Same
Viper · M
That or they're suddenly busy, and can't view it as much as they want to right now...

Or, um, they're busy getting more comfortable, to be busy ;) or playing lol
marsbar · F
@Viper Sick 👻🐻 Lol

I know someone can get busy. I can too, but when I respond, I may say something like, “Sorry to respond so late. I got busy, but you look cute/great/sexy/handsome in that pic 😊”. So they know I’m being sincere & genuine.
Viper · M
@marsbar aaaawe you think I look great? 🥺☺️
marsbar · F
@Viper Of course! 🤗
SW-User
Yeah, I'd think they're no longer interested.
If someone sends me pics for the first time, I also make the effort to respond immediately.
marsbar · F
@SW-User I know you would respond in kind. 😇
SW-User
@marsbar Thank you. And you're very thoughtful as well. ❤️
marsbar · F
@SW-User Thank you 😊😊
HannahSky · F
I'd think responding right away would be most polite and acknowledgement that you sent a picture of yourself, especially if it's the first time.
marsbar · F
@HannahSky Yes, & if it was their request.
HannahSky · F
@marsbar yeah absolutely
Platinum · M
You imagine what they look like and when you see their selfie you can be surprised and not sure how to react and so it takes time to reply
marsbar · F
@Platinum They know what I look like though from my dating profile. They just want additional selfies sometimes.
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
They could be busy.

If you have to remind them you sent a pic....I would say ‘enjoy it’ cause that’s the last they would see of me.
marsbar · F
@LunarOrbit Lol. Understandable
Classified · M
It could be just ill timing. Like they started working or sleeping, but otherwise replying quickly is polite.
marsbar · F
@Classified That can happen.
marsbar · F
@mysteryespresso Yes, that’s what I think as well. I’ll get a text later saying they liked my pic, but when so much time has lapsed, the sentiment is lost.
@marsbar true.

That person might be making a mistake though. Sometimes we don’t like the selfie pic but we like the person when we talk to them on video call and meet them face to face
marsbar · F
@mysteryespresso That’s very true. Online & video call chemistry can vary greatly than face-to-face. Face-to-face is the most telling.
SW-User
Yes, I'd probably be embarrassed
marsbar · F
@SW-User Yes
Ferric67 · M
I personally miss messages all time.

What's this persons history regarding responses, thereinlies your answer.

Ps, you seem like a perfectly fine individual and whomever you are corresponding with should be grateful to be in such good company.
marsbar · F
@Ferric67 Aww thank you 😇
TurtlePink · 22-25, F
I'm the same way. I will always respond back no matter if I lost interest because of how they look. It's just so uncool to do that to somebody. Because what if they feel like that was their best selfie and then now they feel like crap 😢
marsbar · F
@TurtlePink Yes. That’s true. It’s better to respond & be kind even if you’re not interested. Then afterwards you can find some way to say you’re no longer interested.
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
Buffering ⭕
marsbar · F
summersong · F
Yeah I would 😔
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
I believe I’ve responded with a panting emoji within seconds every time I’ve received a nude from you.
marsbar · F
@StevetheSleeve 🤔 You must have me mistaken for someone else doc. 😄
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
@marsbar Hmm. Might have been a dream.
marsbar · F
@StevetheSleeve 😋😜
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
I have missed messages many times during a conversation. Ask them after you sent it if they do not respond if they liked it. There is a chance they missed it
marsbar · F
@ronisme1 Possibly
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
If they asked for the pic and didn’t reply I’d assume they aren’t impressed and probably stop contact.
marsbar · F
@Keepitsimple Those are my thoughts too.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
If you ever notice, people like that never give compliments and mostly only talk about themselves which can be boring. It would be nice to be acknowledged at least. @marsbar
marsbar · F
@Keepitsimple Yes. I think it’s only polite to acknowledge someone.
I try to respond right away. I have sent a few and they just quietly disappear.. 😢 and I have quietly disappeared as well, but after responding first..lol
marsbar · F
@Not1found Sorry to hear that, but it’s good you respond first before disappearing.
SW-User
Just cuz they ask doesn't necessarily mean I would send a selfie to begin with. I send one when I feel comfortable to do so not because they request it.
marsbar · F
@SW-User Same here
SW-User
Well I usually respond as quickly as posible, selfie or not, but sometimes I'm not around.
But definitely, I love pics and give them importance.
Justenjoyit · 56-60, M
[image]What do you think please be honest🙃
marsbar · F
@Justenjoyit Super cute. I’d adopt you. 😄
Synyster · 51-55, M
If it's a new relationship, he should've responded right away especially if he requested the pic.
marsbar · F
@Synyster I agree.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
Yes a selfie in the course of an ongoing long text conversation deserves a prompt response
marsbar · F
@GJOFJ3 I feel the same way.
Reject · 26-30, M
Maybe they’re just too blown away by your beauty and too stunned to respond right away. 😋
marsbar · F
@Reject Haha. No
Magenta · F
I wouldn't think that necessarily, but would defo be wondering what's up?
marsbar · F
@Magenta Yes
Raymuundo · 46-50, M
You are probably more considerate than them. Men are dumb.
marsbar · F
@Raymuundo I always try to be.
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
Not enough boobs in the shot 🤔
marsbar · F
@Shutterbug Not always 😌
Miklee02 · 51-55, F
marsbar · F
@Miklee02 That thought pops up in my mind often. 😅
Miklee02 · 51-55, F
@marsbar haha
How do you look like?
marsbar · F
@mysteryespresso You know what I look like. Lol. I think I posted on your selfie post before.
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Elegy · 46-50
Yes I would.
Justenjoyit · 56-60, M
well, some people are probably taken aback on seeing your beauty and thinking they are not worthy, or it's just the other way around.
Justenjoyit · 56-60, M
@marsbar I usally do ok untill I tell them my height lol, one lady commented back after I told her today
" as long as I dont trip over you in the dark and break my neck" 😂
marsbar · F
@Justenjoyit You gotta appreciate that sense of humor. 😂
Justenjoyit · 56-60, M
@marsbar Exactly, I have had oh that's ok me and my mum can play football with you 😂 British humor
Tres13 · 51-55, M
Anon site Remain anon
I get curious, then I get cynical, if enough time passes.
Usually if I've been texting for something like an hour, I'd hope they'd let me know if they had to go .
marsbar · F
@OogieBoogie Agreed
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Men are stupid but I agree an acknowledgement should be made for the picture.
marsbar · F
@iamonfire696 Yes & yes. Lol
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@marsbar and I know you looked beautiful and definitely deserved the acknowledgement
marsbar · F
@iamonfire696 Thank you. He did acknowledge it, but an hour later & no reason as to why there was a delay.
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marsbar · F
@Darksideinthenight2 Hmmm well I guess if they’re busy, but still, an “I’m sorry I couldn’t respond sooner...” would be nice, especially if they requested it. Maybe it’s different for some men, & they don’t particularly care for an acknowledgement. 🤔
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marsbar · F
@Darksideinthenight2 I get your point.

 
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