If you've been living with your boyfriend/girlfriend for 15+ years...
Why bother getting married now? Asking for a friend.
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MarkPaul 路 26-30, M
Well, let me explain things to you...
1. You are either committed to each other or you're not.
2. If neither of you are, then it might be time to move on.
3. If you are, then after 15+ years it's time to become accountable.
It's not a good idea to build a relationship around a fear of commitment.
1. You are either committed to each other or you're not.
2. If neither of you are, then it might be time to move on.
3. If you are, then after 15+ years it's time to become accountable.
It's not a good idea to build a relationship around a fear of commitment.
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FCNantes 路 22-25, M
@DarkHeaven Why'd that stop you?
Picklebobble2 路 56-60, M
Marriage means different things to different people.
But as others have pointed out, it's still the only legalized way of ensuring your rights and wishes supercede that of 'immediate family' in the event that you are no longer able make your [i]own[/i] determinations in life.
That's probably something that soberly hits you as you get older.
Hence their thinking about it now after 15 years together.
Same with regard to your money and belongings in the event of your death.
The number of folk who never consider making a will is staggering.
And yet courts everyday are filled with probate Lawyers arguing what the deceased 'would have wanted' and what 'family' 'think they're entitled to'.
But as others have pointed out, it's still the only legalized way of ensuring your rights and wishes supercede that of 'immediate family' in the event that you are no longer able make your [i]own[/i] determinations in life.
That's probably something that soberly hits you as you get older.
Hence their thinking about it now after 15 years together.
Same with regard to your money and belongings in the event of your death.
The number of folk who never consider making a will is staggering.
And yet courts everyday are filled with probate Lawyers arguing what the deceased 'would have wanted' and what 'family' 'think they're entitled to'.
bijouxbroussard 路 F
I wouldn鈥檛 live with someone if marriage wasn鈥檛 part of the deal. But a good friend married her boyfriend after 13 years when he became seriously ill and she discovered that even though she knew everything that he wanted done, she had less right to determine his care than his adult children did. Luckily, he recovered, but after that she agreed to marry him.
@bijouxbroussard This. It鈥檚 why gay people have fought so hard for the right. I don鈥檛 care what we call it. I just don鈥檛 want to be legally excluded from my partners last moments. 馃枻
Powderflask 路 31-35, M
smiler2012 路 56-60
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Don鈥檛 bother. It鈥檚 expensive and completely unnecessary
bijouxbroussard 路 F
@SW-User It鈥檚 different here. One of the reasons gays and lesbians fought so hard for the right to legally marry is because certain legal privileges come with it automatically. Civil unions weren鈥檛 enough. I remember in the 80s when friends were dying and their families refused to let their partners even see them. And I knew of several cases where families of one partner changed the locks on homes gay couples co-owned and took possession of the belongings inside.
Marital laws prevented that.
Marital laws prevented that.
SW-User
@bijouxbroussard yeah,canada is a bit more open minded. That sounds horrible. A couple is a couple. Genders don鈥檛 matter
bijouxbroussard 路 F
Allelse 路 36-40, M
Waste of money. Marriage is only really useful if you want to break up, because then the law can step in and arrange for the split of assets, alimony etc while if you were in a de-facto relationship there's not as much the law can do for you.
