Why would you send your elderly parents to a nursing home?

My mother in law had Alzheimer’s and was too difficult to keep at home at the end. For her safety and the families peace of mind she needed 24/7 care which nobody could provide at the time.

When they need more care than I can give then

There could be a number of reasons.
The parents could need medical care that the adult offspring could not provide.
There may be no one in the person's home that can look after/take care of the parents on a day to day basis.
Cost, a seemingly cold hearted statement, but factual. Many people cannot afford a place large enough to house the parents, themselves, and their own children.
My grandparents put themselves into a nursing home as they wanted to be a burden on no one and they wanted to make their own decisions on the matter.

I wouldn't do it, unless it was absolutely necessary!

Hmmmm .... because it's sometimes the best option when there aren't any good options.

Neither one would go if I WANTED them to. Mom died at home in her sleep (and she was only 55). Dad went to the hospital and died as a nurse was wheeling him to X-Ray to discover why he was bleeding when he went to the bathroom - an instant heart attack.

Because sometimes it can be the best answer. Or the least worst.

i had to send my dad to a memory care unit before he killed my mother... he became very violent when he contracted dementia... then i got my mom an apartment in the same building so she could be near him, although he didn't know who she was... :/

I wouldn't
The hospital sent Mom to rehab
but my ex was a nurse ,,I sprung her ,she was competent

I tool care of Grandpa 2 yrs
Dad 3 and Mom 14 months she was not ambulatory and on dialysis
She would have died at home ,but the hospital got my brother to send her to Hospice
Dad died at home
Grandpa was in congestive heart failure ,He died in the hospital ,,but he had gone through this for 15 yrs
I was actually expecting to take him home
Grandma got him to sign a DNR ,,I was taking care of him not her ,,the witch wanted him dead
He had been revived hundreds of times
After the DNR they wouldn't touch him ,,just let him die
I tried to revive him and the male nurses pulled me off him
I could have revived him ,,they said I was being selfish
to respect his wish's ,,that was her ,not him

Never ever. Never ever

Of course. I'm not a nurse.

My mother took care of me. I will not send her to one of those homes where they mistreat elderly people.

Not if I can help it but honestly, I’m just trying to stay out of the hospital myself.

Mostly we work to much. No extra time to care for our grand parent's or parent's

I regret every day that I did. I still struggle with the guilt.

I honestly don't plan on that happening I couldn't bear it

To let them have the care family can't offer them.

Don't think they deserve such special treatment.

Cause the person is a douchebag

Because I know nothing about caring for the elderly, I don't have the physical strength, and I'm not exactly a caring personality in the first place (unless it's an animal).

When they start to smell it's time they go

Thank you for BA 🙂

Never got the chance to.