I Have Social Anxiety

why are you so insecure then? if you're as good quality as any other in the room, and why shouldn't you be?

if you feel so arrogant that I'm too stupid for you, why don't you get down from your high horse and explain???

I am not being arrogant and I never called you stupid, what high horse am I suppose to be on? Sometimes you can't always agree with people, I can respect someone's point of view but it doesn't mean I have to agree. You seem to have taken offence that I didn't think your advice would be the answer to everyone's anxiety, like I said we all have our own points of view, its about showing respect to one another and I think the way you say I want to act like a victim or belittling me, is just not nice and pretty rude, so why wouldn't I take offence?
Also I feel like these type of attitudes are not at all helpful for anyone who has anxiety/mental health I've worked with quite a few people who have severe anxiety, I wouldn't dream of telling them stop acting like a victim, there are much worse things that can happen to you, pull yourself together etc To me that's just plain ignorant and apathetic. Anyway I think we will just beg to differ on this, so there is no point me arguing with you on the matter, you have your opinion and I have mine.

@Wishfulsoul this is not about having different views. about what?

I gave you a simple advice, which i, with the best intentions, thought might fit one or two of the situations you described. I didn't claim not did i ever think my simple advice would easily solve all anxiety problems in all situations (that would indeed be very arrogant + stupid too). next you attack me for belittling your issues, and not having any clue about anxiety as a mental health problem, or whatever ... sorry i felt that was unnecessary, and frankly uncalled for! since then you have called me apathetic, plain ignorant and a whole host of very demeaning terms. maybe we disagree about what rudeness is - or what a decent way to repay well meaning kindness is?

frankly by now i'm not sure if anxiety is the biggest of your mental issues?

@EnglishSonnet Thanks, I'm actually better than I used to be, its not easy though and I don't think its something that can just go away, you can work on it such as with CBT techniques and stuff like that,
I'm sorry people have called you weird that's just horrible, some people have no manners and we're all different. It is true not to fixate on it. Oddly I work in an area where I'm in contact with people all the time working in care, its actually my work colleagues I tend to feel are judging me, although I know this is just irational. One training course I remember having to do is restraint technique, I had this fixated thought in my head everyone can do this I won't be able to I'm going to look like a complete fool in front of everyone, and because of this I couldn't remember the sequence, I kept getting it wrong, the instructor kept getting annoyed with me and threatening he won't pass people who can't do it, I felt like just walking out and quitting my job, I felt in such a state, but the nice thing was my work colleagues were trying to help me, I just felt like a complete embarrassment. I managed to pass because I focused and blocked everything out, I was drained when I came home though. Sometimes I think I'd be better off in a quiet job, but I'm actually okay at my job, I think I can very much empathize with people, I get told I'm good at my job by senior staff, I just feel sometimes my anxiety can get the better of me.

@EnglishSonnet We are our worst critics. The voice inside has a stronger effect on our wellbeing but if we learn to control it we can achieve a lot. I hope you're doing great for yourself as well

@silentkev hi there, yes I understand that feeling of going out and everyone watching. I think there is help out there and its good to realize your not on your own ☺