I Feel Left Out
My girlfriend and the Latte Latina (an old acquaintance of mine) are going out to get tattoos together today. I'm happy for my girlfriend and all, I'm glad they're both becoming good friends once more, but it also feels really awkward considering the LL doesn't seem to like me much anymore.
She used to work at the local coffee stand where I would go to all the time and I had the biggest crush on her for a while, lol. She's straight and we're both in committed long-term relationships, but she was hot. Anyway, she always seemed to like me too and even called me her best customer. We fell out of touch for a long while after she stopped working there but we reconnected when, by nothing short of a million-to-one coincidence, her and my girlfriend shared a college class together! Those two started becoming good friend and her and I got back in touch as well. We even invited her and her better half (and later, her kid as well) to my sister's Summer parties where they became regulars.
During that period, I noticed she started talking to me less and less and would only ever chat with my girlfriend. I figured that she does know my gf better at this point, so it only makes sense that she would be more comfortable with her. But now she never even addresses me when she's around! That first started last Summer and then when she came back around this Summer, it was the same exact thing. I think it's safe to assume that she just doesn't like me anymore and I suppose that's just typical. Just like online, once someone gets to know me better, they end up not liking me. I'm used to it, but it's going to be really weird with those two becoming friends when the LL clearly doesn't like me. It's pretty embarrassing for me and I admit, I feel a little left out.
I'm not about to tell my gf not to be friends with her, of course. My gf actually said she might bring it up to the LL when they're out later and ask if she has any problem with me, but I told her not to. I went through the same thing with my sister: she had a lot of friends she got along with real well, but a lot of them did not seem to like me. But just because one doesn't care for who your family or partners are doesn't mean that you shouldn't be friends with them. As awkward and embarrassing as it may be, I don't not want them to be friends and I am still happy that they're going out to get something like a tattoo together. I just gotta tough it out and get over it, that's all.
She used to work at the local coffee stand where I would go to all the time and I had the biggest crush on her for a while, lol. She's straight and we're both in committed long-term relationships, but she was hot. Anyway, she always seemed to like me too and even called me her best customer. We fell out of touch for a long while after she stopped working there but we reconnected when, by nothing short of a million-to-one coincidence, her and my girlfriend shared a college class together! Those two started becoming good friend and her and I got back in touch as well. We even invited her and her better half (and later, her kid as well) to my sister's Summer parties where they became regulars.
During that period, I noticed she started talking to me less and less and would only ever chat with my girlfriend. I figured that she does know my gf better at this point, so it only makes sense that she would be more comfortable with her. But now she never even addresses me when she's around! That first started last Summer and then when she came back around this Summer, it was the same exact thing. I think it's safe to assume that she just doesn't like me anymore and I suppose that's just typical. Just like online, once someone gets to know me better, they end up not liking me. I'm used to it, but it's going to be really weird with those two becoming friends when the LL clearly doesn't like me. It's pretty embarrassing for me and I admit, I feel a little left out.
I'm not about to tell my gf not to be friends with her, of course. My gf actually said she might bring it up to the LL when they're out later and ask if she has any problem with me, but I told her not to. I went through the same thing with my sister: she had a lot of friends she got along with real well, but a lot of them did not seem to like me. But just because one doesn't care for who your family or partners are doesn't mean that you shouldn't be friends with them. As awkward and embarrassing as it may be, I don't not want them to be friends and I am still happy that they're going out to get something like a tattoo together. I just gotta tough it out and get over it, that's all.
