Is this true for you? How does it apply?

@QueenandCrown Exactly. So I don't really know how that works.

@Casheyane There are those who go after what they want even if they're not really deserving of it.

@Casheyane I am more focused on what you asked:

[quote]You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.[/quote]

As to the workplace, people are not usually open to wearing their feelings/positions on their sleeve, because they are worried about their careers, and how others who may influence that career.

In 2021, or maybe 2019, most topics are off limits in the workplace, due to fear of offending someone (right or wrong). Politics, romance, religion, etc. So, you stick to neutral topics, like cooking (maybe).

I am also not saying that people are more honest online. I'm saying that you have to engage someone on a deeper level, and examine their views, as they discuss things with others, before forming an opinion as to whether this person is a good fit for you, and usually this involve some selection criteria based on attracting what you think you are, so if you think you're great, you would not want someone whose conversations scream "not great". I'm picking SW as an example.

This of course assumes you're looking for a long term situation, and you're not acting on a whim.

@Northwest Yeah. But my life before lockdown don't really involve too much outside of workplace so I don't want to think that applies to me.

It's a matter of balance I think. I honestly want the luxury of getting to know people and having them get to know me too, when all this is over.

@Casheyane

[quote]Yeah. But my life before lockdown don't really involve too much outside of workplace so I don't want to think that applies to me.
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Perhaps this is something you should consider working on. If your circle is limited to your workplace, it gives you a much smaller sample to start with, and makes it easier for people to "fake", so they can get along, because they realize that they spend more time with their co-workers, than they do with their families / SOs.

[quote]It's a matter of balance I think. I honestly want the luxury of getting to know people and having them get to know me too, when all this is over.[/quote]

Of course, the best policy here is to be yourself and don't settle.

@Magenta Reality is part of me don't buy it either. XD

@Casheyane Haha. I was speaking only in general terms. 😊

[quote]Honestly, to me, I don't believe anyone's ever truly known the whole of what I am.[/quote] I get that. They probably haven't.

@MoonlightLullaby AHAHHA

@SW-User No. I mean, why the name 'ColonelPringle'?

@Casheyane Because chicken and potato chips sounded good at the time. 😁

@SW-User I don't think you repel people. Maybe they just don't have enough time to get to know you for who you are.

The right kind of people aren't the easiest to come by. But when they do, it's bound to be worth it.

@SolGryn Yeah? Maybe? Tbh, I kinda find the thought scary if it is. XD Does that makes sense?

@Casheyane it does. I wish you the best

@SolGryn I wish you happiness :D

@FlowersNButterflies I guess that's true.