This post may contain Adult content.
Top | Newest First | Oldest First
SW-User
It gets confusing...
And it feels like many people don't even consider it special.. Just a way to get off and that's it.
Sad.
And it feels like many people don't even consider it special.. Just a way to get off and that's it.
Sad.
View 6 more replies »
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
@SW-User I doubt you're alone in that. Two decades ago when I was interested and trying, there were so many books on this, presumably because nobody really learns relating skills by socialising in the community like people used to do, and then most people are confused when they do enter a relationship...
My conclusion is people are richly complex and so relationships are even more complex. I think they take energy and commitment. Society used to have pressures within it designed to encourage commitment and longevity. They are long-gone... Just my thoughts, friend.
My conclusion is people are richly complex and so relationships are even more complex. I think they take energy and commitment. Society used to have pressures within it designed to encourage commitment and longevity. They are long-gone... Just my thoughts, friend.
SW-User
@PhilDeep I think first impressions have had a key effect on me, impressions and how they are in the beginning... Then it starts to change, and that's when I wonder what happened. It's just all fickle or changing.
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
@SW-User Dating seems to have always been played as a bit of a game. That's why I didn't play it. The thrill of seduction is different ftom the realities of commitment, I think. Even people who are serious will find that the practicalities of life entering their relationship may impinge on the romance, but seduction without intent to commit, when the other party isn't playing, seems downright deceptive to me. Simple truth: people lie, including about love when what they want is sex. I hope you aren't played this way?
I don't find swinging lifestyle remotely compatible with my own values but at least they're upfront with each other instead of trying to pretend. Again, just some thoughts, friend.
I don't find swinging lifestyle remotely compatible with my own values but at least they're upfront with each other instead of trying to pretend. Again, just some thoughts, friend.
Magenta · F
Mmhm, and I find that sad. So much of the depth and connection are lost.
Peaches · F
Yeah, 😔 kind of like "friends with benefits." 👎
hunkalove · 61-69, M
I blame it on the Bossa Nova.