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My 21 year old daughter has stopped talking to me. What should I do?

Thats heartbreaking. If it helps, my son was estranged from us for a couple of years. we always kept the door open and he eventually returned. even thinking of those years still makes me heart ache.
BanPlastic · 31-35, M
@BiasForAction I did that to my mother for a couple of months and she struggled to handle just that. But I did it to teach her a lesson for not respecting my boundaries.
Adelina · 46-50, F
@BanPlastic What caused you to start wanting to talk with your mom again?
BanPlastic · 31-35, M
@Adelina I opened up about how I felt, we had a chat, she apologized and seemed to understand my position and take everything onboard. She agreed not to repeat it. At the end of the day, she's also my mother. She gave me life. I owe her my life. And I'm not perfect either.
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
I wonder what you did
Adelina · 46-50, F
@ScarletWitch To be honest, I don't know what has caused her to do this.
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
@Adelina oh damn. Maybe ask her personally and she will most likely have an answer.
Nobody00 · F
@ScarletWitch i almost asked the same thing. What did you do
Not knowing her, best guess would be to give some room for now, then try to open lines of communication shortly about something else
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Wait. They'll need you before you need them
AlyAngel · F
@iamnikki lies, a mother always needs their babies
BanPlastic · 31-35, M
Have you asked her what you did wrong yet? That would be a good place to start.
BanPlastic · 31-35, M
@Adelina Unless HE did something to her... You should drop by just to see her. Don't talk to her. Just see that she's there and then leave.
Adelina · 46-50, F
@BanPlastic That's a scary thought, but yeah, I need to figure out a way to check on her. I don't really think her dad did anything to her, but I wonder if she's going through depression and is starting to shut people out of her life one by one. She had started doing that with my mom a few months ago and now she's doing it to me.
BanPlastic · 31-35, M
@Adelina Ah yes. Depression can do that.
AlyAngel · F
Let her know you are there but dont force it
Allelse · 36-40, M
Maybe she has a good reason.
Ohbabe · 22-25, F
Dont be forceful. Show her that you care. Let her be able to talk to you about the reasons why she did that. You are the parent and it isn’t one of those things where its like “its a two way street”
SW-User
Why did she stop speaking to you?
Adelina · 46-50, F
@SW-User I don't know.
SW-User
@Adelina I don’t speak with my father. He calls and texts me sometimes and I don’t answer, but it really makes me hate him more. I guess my point is to give her space. I hope things work out with you guys.
Adelina · 46-50, F
@SW-User Thank you
Nobody00 · F
What happened?
Nobody00 · F
@Adelina don't text or call at all for like 2 months, maybe she needs to "cool down" or give her a brake, maybe calling or texting causes her some psychological pressure...so she tries to avoid it. Sometimes you need to back off , I would either go to a psychologist or read a book on how to approach her to find out what happened if she doesn't tell you straight forward. The "approach" is critically important or you can lose here for 10 or 20 years... Oh, and pray. God can change her heart and mind Good luck
Adelina · 46-50, F
@Nobody00 Thank you for the advice. I will give her some space and pray about it. I think 2 months is a good amount of time and hopefully she will come around and want to talk with me again.
Nobody00 · F
@Adelina ...if the usual approach of calling and texting doesn't work. Something new is needed, cause pushing further with that will push her away even more and for longer... and also pray, God can turn someone around in a second and they will not even know what happened.
Give space pushing will only make her pull away even more
FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, F
Send a postcard, let her her know you are always
here for her.
I would find out why and try to rectify it.
Just give her time. She will come back into your life.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Keep talking and writing to her.
SW-User
Did you fight?
Adelina · 46-50, F
@SW-User No
SW-User
@Adelina Maybe just tell her that you miss her and would love to hear from her
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