Does economic differences really matter in a relationship ?

Came across this interesting article..

https://www.susanwinter.net/economic-differences/

Relationship expert Susan says it hardly matters. Those differences remain compensated by other important factors.

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TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

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Neena · F

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout 😂 It applies other way too 😜

SW-User

I think it does. Hypergamy is real.

Neena · F

@SW-User Yes but if the man is substantially younger economic differences do arise. He needs time as he might have just started his career. But yes, a younger handsome man who earns well is always preferable.

SW-User

@Neena Economic differences arise in almost every relationship. The point here is whether or not they matter, and they do.

Neena · F

@SW-User I agree with you. May be during the initial period it may not arise. The person earning comparatively less should work hard to achieve parity in that case. My some seems to be in love with a friend of mine and I am just too much concerned about him. Though I don't want to interfere in their life as his mother I just feel too much protective.

raysam363 · 31-35, F

In theory, no. In reality, yes. Although it seems like it affects a female's opinion a bit more than a male's opinion.

Neena · F

@raysam363 I do agree that it has more to do with female opinion. Traditionally men always partnered younger women and they were expected to be the breadwinner.

Success · 26-30, F

Nope. I'm the only breadwinner.

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Neena · F

@Success How old is your partner?

Success · 26-30, F

@Neena Going on 18

Neena · F

@Success That's a sweet age 😋

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

This certainly seems to focus more on the male insecurity of making less than a woman does in the relationship. I believe this is not as much of an issue with younger generations than it is older. Older generations it is very much a matter of pride and self worth for a man.

In the age, I think economic differences do matter and are important. Potentially even relationship making or breaking. But the difference isn't in who makes how much, it is about the economic goals of the people in the relationship. Someone with long term goals hoping for an early retirement is going to have a lot of trouble with a live in the moment spendthrift that wants to vacation while they are young. Someone who wants to break out of debt is going to be challenged by someone who doesn't view being in debt as a bad thing.

When it comes to keeping a relationship together, being aligned on a financial future is far more important than which person is making the money. And if you are not aligned then the person making the money is going to get angry that you do not respect their contributions or the person making less is going to feel like they are not important and just along for the ride.

It's all about where you are going, not where you are at present.

Neena · F

@ViciDracoThats nicely put across. I agree with you. Also in the new age where women marrying a much younger man is common economic differences doesn't play a major role as it had done in the past. But yes having a younger man who earns substantially and is a powerful figure outside the home is a great asset for any woman.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

It doesn't matter, but it does come down to just how important it is to each person involved. Of course money is important and necessary in our world, but it often gets more importance and priority than it should.

SW-User

My ex's dad was richer than me and he thought his daughter deserved someone more financially stable

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