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Would you be concerned about this?

My boyfriend of 16 months has not been on good terms with his nanny lately. That's why I was surprised when this morning, he texted her at 8AM this morning with 'Merry Christmas Emily 🎄❤🎅. Thanks for all you have done this year.

She replied with 'Merry Christmas xx'

Can't help but dislike the fact he put a heart on it and texted her early. Like she was on his mind and yet he says he does not like her 😕

Am I being unreasonable? I read it as he got up to go to the bathroom
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Viper · M
@SW-User You can trust someone with your kids, but that person could annoy the crap outta you at times.

I think we all degree, that the timing could throw up some flags (unless he just read a message from her... that could of been sent before)

As for the emjois, that depnds on if he's an emjoi person and how loose he is with them... some people give give away emjois like they're nothing. Or because they're in the Christmas spirit.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
This has been playing on my mind a lot.
He complains about her a lot. Says he keeps her on as his kid likes her. For those confused, of course it's his kids nanny not his.
He is a loving guy. But this just feels weird. Maybe he is just in the Christmas spirit but to text her and send a heart emoji as well as thanking her for the year (They have fought a lot). It just seems weird. There must be feelings there on his side or he is just doing it for his son's sake which hopefully is the answer?
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Jenni855 THE GIRL SENT HIM KISSES. THAT SAYS WAY MORE THAN A HEART!!! Hearts can be loving! KISSES???? SHE JUST KISSED YOUR MAN! TWICE!


I'm serious though. I'd be more concerned about the kisses, because I can justify a heart. Even though I only use hearts for people I love or people I'm flirting with or good friends. The yellow heart would be appropriate which signifies friendship. Red hearts signify deep or romantic love. Let's say he doesn't know anything about hearts or emojis. Well, she knows what a [b]X[/b] means! She could have responded with "You, too" and a smiley face or something. But, kisses? Bad news.
Drewman · 46-50, M
I feel like you don't need to ask. If you feel concerned there is reason to be concerned.

Personally I have been concerned over emojis and xx too.

Go with your gut.
eMortal · M
He had feelings for her.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@eMortal They were good friends and close before he got with me. But nothing romantic, I didn't think so anyway, now I kind of question that. 😐
eMortal · M
@Jenni855 Regardless she's still dear to him. Don't push it though. The man hasn't given you signs to worry about.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@eMortal Time will tell I guess. I am so in love it would break my heart if he was attracted to her
You were going thru his phone?
Nope 😂. Nobody picked up on that😂@BettyBeez
@Quoththeraven phone snoops really irk me
Me too@BettyBeez
Viper · M
Um, I don't know him... but my first thought is Christmas love...

Though, yeah, kinda odd that he did it so early and before the bathroom? Unless he just read a text from her that was already on his phone.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Viper No. She hadn't texted him before. He initiated it.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
It was inappropriate on both their sides and not what their relationship should be like.
Viper · M
@Jenni855 True, but you also might be over blowing ... and it might of been nothing but a Christmas thank you.

(I don't know, just saying it might not be a big deal, other than in your head, again, I don't know).
SW-User
He's fucking her
Mikemcneil · 61-69, M
@SW-User bit harsh but possibly
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@SW-User Thats what I am scared of.
Sarah082 · 31-35, F
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Sarah082 What?
Sarah082 · 31-35, F
@Jenni855 2 things he either likes or just being friendly
Montanaman · M
☝️Family is Sooo important. I've got family that I've not made up with in years, not that I haven't tried. When you get to be my age, you realize that family is all you got. Nothing else matters more.😔🤗🥰💞
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Montanaman She is not his family?
Montanaman · M
@Jenni855 oh, a nanny for his children. Something is up 🤔🤷🙅😔 sorry.
Kiriniri · 22-25, F
He is being polite.
Sounds like a very good guy 😊
Kiriniri · 22-25, F
@Jenni855 because he's being polite XD
Just cause you don't like someone doesn't mean you need to be rude🙄
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Kiriniri You don't need to put hearts either though.
Kiriniri · 22-25, F
@Jenni855 some people like emojis 😋😁😆🤣😂
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Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@SW-User Maybe but glad I did now.
Your bf has a nanny...
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perceptivei · 36-40, F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout For his children
REMsleep · 41-45, F
You would at first seem to be unreasonable reading far too much into a Christmas emoji but if your gut is telling you something then it is for you to decide what is real. Many people include heart or hugs emojis and this is not special for them. You should know his normal behavior. Texting her earlier in the morning could be some indication of something but who knows. Did he also text others, or only her?
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@REMsleep He shouldn't be sending emojis like that to the nanny.
I don't think he was texting anyone else
english · 56-60, M
tis the season ,forgiveness ,kindness to all men/women 🙃
english · 56-60, M
@Jenni855 maybe he has seen a copy of her will , another option ,🙃
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@english I do not understand?
english · 56-60, M
@Jenni855 It was a bit tongue in cheek, with a little dash of sarcasm, i gave the best option 1st, so for the 2nd i gave you a more shady option , ()its english humour) and its never funny when i have to explain it . never mind .
NativeOregonian · 51-55
Regardless of their issues as of lately, she still take care of his children and deserves respect for that alone.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@NativeOregonian Perhaps. But why the heart and early morning text?
perceptivei · 36-40, F
I understand your concern. Is she his type? Is she good looking?
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@perceptivei I haven't met her. She is a bit younger. Normally, all I hear of is complaints about her 😕
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Jenni855 A bit younger. Hmm. Look complaints mean nothing. It could be one of those love-hate things. Sexual attraction is weird sometimes, [i]or[/i] he could be complaining just to throw you off.

I know the heart (love emoji) didn't surprise her, because she responded back with kisses! [b]xx[/b] means "kisses you twice".

Unless you're subconsciously turned on by the thought of him being with another woman, I'd see what's really going on.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
It's Christmas, we let bygones be bygones.
To make an issue of this world definitely be unreasonable
Mikemcneil · 61-69, M
It's not his real nanny. How old is he?
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Mikemcneil For [i]his[/i] children
Mikemcneil · 61-69, M
@perceptivei do you live together? 🙄
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Mikemcneil No. I could tell by the context of her post and logical reasoning... 😒
perceptivei · 36-40, F
I wouldn't like the [b]xx[/b] she added to Merry Christmas.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@perceptivei I know. She was out of line.
perceptivei · 36-40, F
@Jenni855 But, why did he heart her, ya know?

 
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