Should I be upset ?

I constantly say things like, Don’t get me anything for Christmas/Birthday/etc to my family, I’m finally in a spot in my life that I have all my needs and most of my wants ... with that said, my birthday was Friday ... not a milestone birthday, or anything ... but a birthday ... my wife didn’t even get me a card, mind you she’s relegated to a walker and doesn’t get around good anyways, but she does drive and can go to a store by herself ... only one of my three kids wished me happy birthday ... I did go out to eat (on Saturday) after one of the kids games, my birthday was mentioned (no cake or anything) but that’s when one of my daughters realized she’d forgotten ... I honestly don’t know how I should feel ... it’s kinda sad I guess ... understand though, I’m not really looking for sympathy ... cause isn’t it mostly my fault for not making a big deal of it myself ?

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LukeTheDuke · M

The very fact you are posting and asking about it means it has impacted on you emotionally.

Even if you don’t want heavy celebrations, a small gift and everyone remembering isn’t too much to expect. How would your wife react if you gave her nothing? I guess you could mention it and say you didn’t feel great about the way your birthday was overlooked.

JeanAnna · F

Every person deserves some attention on their birthday, doesn't have to be a gift or anything expensive, just a hug or birthday wishes would have meant so much.

dragonfly46 · F

How about saying you'd like to [b]celebrate[b] your birthday but instead of giving gifts they can donate their time or money to a charity of your choice. Or as a way of celebrating, you and your family work a local charity together. I think it important you celebrate as a whole family, but you can determine where and how your gifts are given.

turbineman40 · 80-89, M

Best idea. Don't get upset just go on

Mamapolo2016 · F

Well, happy birthday.

The trouble with telling people not to make a big deal out of something is that sometimes they think we mean it.

In my case, I DO mean it. Birthdays lost their charm about 30 years ago.

YoungDawg66 · 56-60, M

@Mamapolo2016 Thank you ...

Mamapolo2016 · F

@YoungDawg66 Next year (or even now) try to come up with an activity everybody enjoys - even a dinner out and tell everybody no gifts are wanted but this is how YOU want to spend your birthday.

Tomorrow · 56-60, F

Aww...this makes me sad. I do understand how that feels though. But we move on through it. Just a little sadder.

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