Is that a desperation thing or a wiser with age thing?

I think it's a number of things. For some I think it's the more mature perspective of "There's more to someone than looks." For others (like myself) it's an appreciation for the varied shapes and sizes of the female form. Keep in mind its more socially acceptable to openly appreciate a more curvier woman today. So men are more apt to feel ok in expressing there love for women of all body types.

The sad, sorry truth of it is this.
Men, from a young age, are driven by what they can see.
Boys/men are very visual creatures. Whereas women are more sensitivity/ideologically driven.

So having spent our youth chasing some sort of mythical 'ideal woman' and either never finding them or discovering that what we perceive as 'beautiful' is often ONLY that(little substance beyond looks)THEN we start to think about personality and it's worth.

Unless of course you're very lucky and work this out while you're fairly young in life.

Can't ask much of a woman? That implies us bigger women are a lower standard to slim women.
It's about time we stopped treating all of this like a competition and realised that people are different and like different things and that's actually okay.
Women especially need to stop judging each other and support each other rather than being so concerned with what men like and don't like.

I'm still thinking on this. I think it is a lot more complicated than how desperate they are or whether or not they now appreciate larger women. All sorts of things can change in 25-30 years, things a younger person can't always comprehend.
I've always liked larger women but some of the women I would have found interesting 30 years ago wouldn't interest me now and some of the women I find interesting now wouldn't have interested me 30 years ago. It's not that my standards have went up or down, it's more that I can see potential problems more clearly and have a better understanding of who I may or may not be compatible with.

Doesn't matter..personality counts more so

I always had a thing for larger women. There was a girl or two I dated who were on the skinny side but skinny never did it for me.

Well sometimes older couples gain weight together because he or she is a good cook. lol

Its also healthier to have a little more meat on your bones incase you fall when you're older. It protects your bones and might prevent broken hips.

I've always appreciated larger women more. Not that I don't appreciate the others, mind you...😁

Size of the body isn’t as important as size of the mind.

There are many shapes of healthy.

Being too heavy can be unhealthy, but also being too thin can be unhealthy as well.

I suspect it’s less desperation and more a factor of life experience.

Or it could be an I belong to this generation and people of my generation give higher importance to "this aspect" in women thing.🤔

The love of my life was even almost two years older than me, both in our sixties.
I coudn´t ask for better.
If I ever date again it will be with a woman of my own generation.

You must be sweet 😂

I believe that with maturity comes the realization that it isn't just a body which is beautiful.

For me it was both. I am not young, handsome, and fit so it is unlikely a young, pretty fit woman would be interested in me. Also, the more amateur porn I watched, I realized the couple did not have to be young, cute, and fit for me to get turned on. It is all about the smacking of hips on ass cheeks, the real moaning, the love. Gosh I feel aroused now.

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. There is beauty in every body!

Personally I think it’s wisdom and realizing that a partner who loves and is good to you is much more valuable than just another pretty face. On the other hand, there are men who were always interested in fuller figures, even when young.

I think it's about what youre used to. When i was a teen i really liked small women but since I've grown older, women have gotten bigger 😂 i now like both thick and slim equally.

Wiser with age.