What is it with people who don’t accept responsibility?

@Fungirlmmm Well you know I lived with Mr. “It’s your fault I acted like an asshole” for many years, so I’m way over that bullshit mentality.

@HeavenBesideYou Exactly. Life is to short to be an asshole or live with one.

@Fungirlmmm Amen sista. 🤗

@VioletRayne you have people like me that are generally happy and then you have the flipside of the coin and then in between. I think the difference in being happy and not is perspective. Do I have everything in life that I want? No, I don't, but I'm blessed with so much that it seems ungrateful to allow myself to wallow in what I don't have. I'll give you an example. I lost my son... I longed for a child and God blessed me with one but as quickly as I got him, he was gone. God blessed me with many nieces and nephews, soon to be 23 in total. So I can sit around and cry and boohoo about my loss or I can live in the moment with the beautiful children in my life. It doesn't mean that I don't miss my son, but I choose to live and be happy instead of living with a dark shadow over my head. Plus I hate when people try to pity me. People like the guy in your example do not last long in my world. He would be irrelevant to me quickly. Hope you are having a great day though.

@Fungirlmmm [c=#4C0073]I’m sorry for your loss, but I love your outlook. I think it’s natural to keep going. I survive daily but I do wallow a lot especially about my relationship status. But then again my mom always told me closed mouths don’t get fed. 🤣🤷🏾‍♀️[/c]

@VioletRayne Lol @ your mom.

@VioletRayne you know I can see that point. It is 50/50 responsibility and a woman should never lay down with a man that she knows isn't responsible and has signs of being a good father. However it is not the child's fault and they both should be doing what it takes to raise the child

@Fungirlmmm [c=#4C0073]Thats true a woman should never lay with a knowingly irresponsible male, but men are great at hiding who they are until it’s too late. There are a lot of single mothers out there who were with the father for years and then he decides he’s done and disappears on them. There is not garauntee that a guy is going to stick around and there are no sure fire indicators that you’ve got a good one. So women should just do whatever these guys say in order to keep them or never have a relationship?!? I’m not understanding what you see that I don’t?[/c]

@VioletRayne I agree. I have 3 sisters. 2 of them are single moms... 1 makes terrible choices and has children by 3 different men. 1 has 2 children by the same man that left her. I see it from both sides. :(

@VioletRayne well I guess the secret is get to know them well first as a friend before you introduce them as a partner..it's easier to explain a friend that goes missing than letting someone move into your life permanently from the outset.

@Primnproper [c=#4C0073]Oh I would never😱 I meant the friends at some point the kid realizes what’s going on [/c]

@VioletRayne well you can't put your life on hold, you've just got to be sensible and not rush things..

@SW-User [c=#4C0073]It really is. There are guys out there who think it’s a woman’s job to force them to take care of their child?!?[/c]

I know it's ridiculous, children need their Mom's and their Dads.

@Fungirlmmm [b]Some[/b] women. Just like some men. This guy isn't all of them.

@bijouxbroussard true I should have qualified that thought.

No, it's not that he doesnt like women, he just loves himself and only himself. Everyone else is to serve his fragile ego.

Love to see his parents and how he was brought up.