Have you ever found yourself bullied at work and what did you do? I am getting increasingly...

SW-User

When that happens, I just find a new job and stop recommending that workplace to anyone in my industry. If I cannot do that, I simply do my job to the best of my ability and, if necessary, settle it outside work.

TheStomachSadist · 26-30, M

That's what hR is for. Go to your manager first and explain. It's against most company's code of conduct policies to harass people in anyway or make them uncomfortable in the work place. Check your employers code of conduct. You're there to do a job and get paid not be treated with any hostility whatsoever!

DuchessOfMapleSyrup · M

i have worked with people like that. it is very frustrating.

WhatShallIcallyou · 51-55, M

Try taking notes of her behaviour then take that to the manager. You can always suggest that he might like to take action before HR do (take notes of your complaints to him too).

IF you don't want to do something like that. Then look for another job. The bullying will get on top of you if you let them persist.

Picklebobble · 56-60, M

Go see H.R. See if you can get a transfer somewhere else.
That's the path of least resistance.
Or, if you've already tried the chain of command thing. Go see an employment lawyer.
Tell them what's going on and supply as much detail as you can.
You have a right to feel protected from behaviour detrimental to your work.
However. Be advised. If you have to go this route you may find that any advancement within your current company is unlikely as a result.
But make a noise !
Probably the best response would be to put this person in their place !
Make it loud enough for folk to hear and I bet she'll keep quiet after that !
Even if they don't, if you keep showing them up in public at least it shows the in effectiveness of the management to everybody.

SW-User

that rotten bitch. I know exactly what you are saying. Don't trust her she has your boss under her thumb. Don't say anything to her that is negative against your boss or the company

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Simplegirlstory · 31-35, F

Once I was bullied so much at work that I attempt to suicide. I ate 30 paracetamol then ended up in ICU. That was my mistake to get effected by those asshole bullies.

tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F

Make notes and talk with the HR department.Go over your bosses head.Have your lawyer phone the HR department so they know you are serious.

BTW I'm an office manager and a tall blonde.My legs are always on show.I use a firm but fair approach with favouritism to none.

questionWeaver

Feel for you. Sounds like a difficult scenario ... much more than a box of donuts can solve.

Your coworker insecurity, is at the root of 80% of these situations. ... you can never fix that.

Social harmony will be difficult to achieve.

yellowstone

I ultimately left that job. The bullying went on for years. Nothing, not even a talk from her boss or mine, did anything. She was the most whiny, immature bitter older woman I've ever met. She saw herself always as a great person. She wasn't. Even her boss said how awful she was. But his priorities was on getting work done. It was a horrid situation, one that almost drove me to suicide. Leaving was a choice I do not regret.

Silverfox420 · 36-40, F

If you can, look for a new job. Its not gonna change there. People suck no matter where you go, but that's abuse and you don't have to deal with it.

olderguy2016 · 70-79, M

Sure it is frustrating. Till you find another job,stick to it.
Give love to her and try to be friendly with you

Aprism · F

Yes, I smiled. 🙂

MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M

Dude just tell her off. What's the worth of living if you live in misery? Make it happen.