My dad is a racist. [I Need Advice]

So, we just watched the verdict of the Derek Chauvin trial, and I was almost in tears, happy that he was convicted. My dad starts talking about how there’s another camera angle of the video of him kneeing on Floyd and that he wasn’t on his neck. My dad is acting like he wants to prove that a white cop wouldn’t murder a black man. My dad also is racist towards Arabs, thinking that they’ll be dangerous which is so wrong. It pisses me off, and I almost don’t want to have a relationship with him anymore. Any advice?

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NickiHijab · F

First of all the people calling you a snowflake or anything along them lines are too narrow sighted to gauge the deeper problem here and reduce everything to "liberalism" which speaks volumes. Pay them no mind.

As for your dad, that's tricky and difficult to escape. Sometimes my parents say shit that frustrates me and I've learned that no amount of disputing does anything to change their stance. You're clashing heads with programming that runs deeper than their upbringing. It's an entire system that they defend without even really understanding the implications of it.

Plant seeds of thought while you're under the same roof, doing this is challenging him without draining yourself or your peace of mind.

Or avoid the conversations with him all together if it spares you the headache.

One thing I've taken away is if I can't work against someone, I work around them. Do this until you have the means to leave and when you do leave you'll have a better understanding of whether you want that toxicity in your life in doses or even at all.