I Need Advice
So I am in (self funded) counselling. I've had a tough time with anxiety for much of my life and have really struggled with early parenthood, my daughter's downs birth diagnosis and heart surgery etc and thought it would help.
What normally happens is I go in and I talk to her about how I'm feeling and what happened that week. As I'm talking I kind of come to my own conclusions about things with her guidance and feel much better. So that big tangled mess in my brain starts to unravel a bit, I feel more peaceful and more able to focus and direct my thoughts. I am all over the place when I talk, but I feel like it helps.
Yesterday she told me I needed "a goal" from the sessions. So she said I could come in and do deep relaxation techniques etc, but right now I just wasn't getting value for money coming in and talking to her as I am. It completely threw me. Coming in and offloading to someone for an hour about all the silly/anxious/bad thoughts was helping me with the general goal of reducing my anxiety but apparently that's not enough of a goal? I also feel embarrassed and like I've done something wrong and she was bored. I can offload sometimes, according to her, but I need to think of a long term goal. I don't have one 🤷♀️
Has anyone had counselling and would be prepared to tell me roughly how their sessions went? Were you allowed to just talk or otherwise? I'm just about ready to stop the sessions, I can barely afford them anyway, but I can't stop thinking about it.
What normally happens is I go in and I talk to her about how I'm feeling and what happened that week. As I'm talking I kind of come to my own conclusions about things with her guidance and feel much better. So that big tangled mess in my brain starts to unravel a bit, I feel more peaceful and more able to focus and direct my thoughts. I am all over the place when I talk, but I feel like it helps.
Yesterday she told me I needed "a goal" from the sessions. So she said I could come in and do deep relaxation techniques etc, but right now I just wasn't getting value for money coming in and talking to her as I am. It completely threw me. Coming in and offloading to someone for an hour about all the silly/anxious/bad thoughts was helping me with the general goal of reducing my anxiety but apparently that's not enough of a goal? I also feel embarrassed and like I've done something wrong and she was bored. I can offload sometimes, according to her, but I need to think of a long term goal. I don't have one 🤷♀️
Has anyone had counselling and would be prepared to tell me roughly how their sessions went? Were you allowed to just talk or otherwise? I'm just about ready to stop the sessions, I can barely afford them anyway, but I can't stop thinking about it.
31-35, F
