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Should I be mad at him? Sorry that this story is so long but please read!!

Okay, so, about 5 months ago, my boyfriend and I got into an argument and then he immediately started back talking to a girl he used to talk to and made her call my phone and say she was his girlfriend and stuff, basically harassing me and trying to get under my skin. For almost 2 months, I sat there and watched him flirt with this girl on social media and post her and stuff. This made me extremely depressed. But in April, we started talking again and we got back together and he apologized for the situation and stuff. So, I went to his house in June and he claimed that he doesn’t talk to the girl anymore. But yesterday, I went to his house again and saw the girl’s picture in his phone and then he said she was his cousin but I knew she wasn’t his cousin and he knew that, too. Then I saw in his call logs that he has been talking to this girl every other day, some calls lasting over an hour. There were no text messages, just straight phone calls between the two. I asked him about it but I didn’t really talk about it as much with him because yesterday we were going through a lot of issues with his family and I just wanted to be there for him instead of get into a fight. He basically said that they talk about nothing and she always calls him to talk about her day. My whole thing is, he knows how I felt about the situation when he allowed this girl to contact me and harass me 5 months ago, and he made me think I was the only one he was talking to but the whole time, he’s still been in contact with the same girl and I honestly don’t know how to feel. I feel like I shouldn’t even be worrying about this because there’s a lot of other stuff going on in our lives but I hate that he lied to me
ScarletWitch · 26-30, F
Girl...

Wtf are you doing...

He completely disrespected you...

Disloyal... lying, scum.

He may be attractive, but he doesnt deserve your heart.
HE IS NOT HUSBAND NOR BOYFRIEND material...

I'm going to be honest with you...

Hard truth... you know what he has done. what he will do...

If you continue the relationship you will have no one to blame but yourself because you knew what you were getting into.

But worse, if you allow yourself to get pregnant on accident... the person he is will destroy you and the unborn child.

I think it's best for you to leave.

He will do everything to contact you when you stop replying. Thats what men do. But no, he is not a good match.
Montanaman · M
@ScarletWitch Best Answer!!!👍👍👍
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
You don't need to be mad if you don't want to be; no one can tell you what you should feel. Just don't take this guy seriously. You can like him, but it's pretty obvious you can't trust him.

He is young. And young guys are not ready to stick to one girl. They may even want to at times, but they can't, they're just not ready for it. Please get over the idea that he will pick one of you, or that he will tell you the truth of this situation.

Why not start seeing other guys, other people, and give up trying to define and contain a relationship as changeable as the weather.

I can only imagine what he says to her when she figures out that you are back in the picture.
ShaythePanTransMan · 22-25, T
Dump him immediately. You are so much better than him. Don’t let yourself be used.
SW-User
If it was harmless he wouldn't have hid it from you. Cut ties and move on.
He sounds like a total piece of shit. I’d trash his ass the minute he started back talking to the very girl he was with before. But, that’s just me.
Montanaman · M
@DrScissorhands ditto 👍👍😔
@DrScissorhands I agree. He would see my butt sashay right out of his life.
SW-User
Yes, you should be mad at him (if you want). And leave him right away. If I were in that situation, I will leave him right away. Because I know once a person behaves like that, they will be like that continuously.
maybesomeday · 26-30, F
Of course you should be mad, and you should be dumping his ass asap. It is quite clear he has continuously been lying and is disloyal. You know the answer here - leave and don't look back.
beastmaster · 46-50, M
He is am immature "twit" who thinks he can use women any way he wants.
You will find someone better than him, just be patient❤️
SW-User
The fact he lied would be enough to tell him to go fuck himself..you deserve better
Montanaman · M
All comments here.
Same.
Listen.
Act.
You know what you should do.😔👍💔🤗🤗
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
WHY ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS ASSHOLE
This isn't going to end well for you
CC67219 · 41-45, F
@IBHappy why try to make sense out of insanity?
People will only respect you at the same level you respect yourself.
Why settle for his games?
What does he have thats worth this mental and emotional anguish?
You're better than letting him use you like a doormat, right?
He can't be trusted. Simple
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
He's broken trust. It's one thing to talk to someone else. That's for the two of you to deal with and determine terms of your relationship. But it's a completely different story for him to lie to your face.

You can't plan a future with a guy like that. You can't trust them to follow their word.

You need to leave him for your own sake. As much as it may hurt now, staying with him will screw over your future far worse.
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