Need good ideas for responding to my husband cheating

I know it happens all the time. And now it has happened to me. I want my response to be smart and I want my response to put me in a good position for Karma to take it's course. Also to not negatively affect my potential divorce settlement...

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antonioio · 70-79, M

Did you ever hear the expression
Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me
The only reason why a spouse will cheat
If they think their going to get away with it

SW-User

@antonioio rubbish.

eatpraylove · 56-60, F

@antonioio I do not understand what your idea is. … not at all.

Fernie · F

@antonioio Spoken like a true bag of testosterone...really? The ONLY REASON people cheat? People cheat initially because they are selfish, betraying cowards.

HerKing · 61-69, M

@antonioio Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they're selfish and think they can get away with it..women cheat (And I know this from my own experience) because they're neglected, bored, don't feel appreciated, need affection they're not getting from their partner, and part of it is the thrill. It often comes after months, often years of putting up with shit and trying to fix it, but one sided fixes never work.

Revenge is a dish best served cold, and I understand that, but if it were me the victim, indifference is a more powerful weapon. But that is only my tactic, I understand the temptation to have all guns blazing and exact revenge big time, but I think that's tiring.. Ever read/seen the TV 'The life and times of a she devil'?

Excellent.