Need good ideas for responding to my husband cheating

I know it happens all the time. And now it has happened to me. I want my response to be smart and I want my response to put me in a good position for Karma to take it's course. Also to not negatively affect my potential divorce settlement...

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SW-User

Talk to him openly. Say what you need

I know this seems harsh, but don't be too emotional as this could be used against you as if he is cruel and harsh he'll try to paint you as someone not to be trusted or volatile.

Children involved?

eatpraylove · 56-60, F

@SW-User grown children

SW-User

@eatpraylove Respond in kind. It's more important for you to keep them in your life

Fernie · F

@SW-User what a nutty thing to say to her. She has no responsibility to do any of that...he is the villain here.

SW-User

@Fernie Then you misunderstood my response especially since I never said a word about fault or anything resembling.

Fernie · F

@SW-User I think it is you who does not understand how betrayed she feels. I really don't think she is in place to be all Zen about what he did. You want her to let go of all that and have a lovely chat with the lying scum. She can be rational in her resentment and not do anything to make herself look the fool. She seems like an awake and intelligent woman to me. What you mean by her telling him "what she needs" I don't get. It's too late for that