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What to do, when you have broken contact with someone recently but you know they may need you now as they didn't trust many...do you relent ?

I read down the comments and found your reason and I will say this.

Your partner is the most important person in your life and should be respected as such.

I am afraid since you broke off with them, even though they might not speak this way again, that they would harbor the same bad thoughts about your S/O.

If there is ever a little bickering between you again this person could start on your SO again.

Sorry but they might need you but you dont need them. They might be toxic for your relationship.

Sorry this was long but I had many thoughts on this,
Primnproper · 56-60, F
You're saying everything that I truly know to be right, so thank you for just reinforcing that I'm correct in maintaining no contact..
You are correct and I hope you can stand strong in your decision.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@SBelle: I will because I have to..lol
So you broke contact. Ask yourself why and do you really want to go back there again. Can they compromise with you..cause you know some folks won't change....just random thoughts. Hugs
@Primnproper: and so do you wish to go back to put up with the problem...again?
Just because you think about them doesn't make it right to feel exhausted as you did why you broke off.
Its your move. Are they willing to bend?
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@BemyValentine: I'm always too willing to bend but then end up back where I started..so I feel now I have to stick with the break..
@Primnproper: I do understand my friend, one can only bend so many times before deciding a complete break is necessary. Hugs
MikefromEP · 51-55, M
Depends on the reason for breaking contact. Usually breaking contact is a sign they did something very wrong
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Yes they did..
I broke contact with them for a reason. If I'll only be doing it just to help them at that moment and don't really plan on sticking with them, I'd rather not.. I'll probably just make it worse by temporarily caring and then leaving afterwards.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
That is very true..
@Primnproper: this is the ideal way to deal with it,I think, but human emotion is very delicate and complicated... sometimes we end up doing the opposite because we care too much.. but meh, who cares, you do whatever works for you.. :)
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@icecoldzt: thank you for your help it was much appreciated and makes a lot of sense..
Livingwell · 61-69, M
Hello @Prim! Based on the reason for breaking contact (lack of respect for you and your partner) i don't know if i would help them. You don't owe them a thing. Why should you make yourself available to support them when they refused to support you?
Primnproper · 56-60, F
I know that you are right and I think I'm doing the right thing by keeping the no contact..
LadyWioness · 56-60, F
It depends on why I broke contact.
LadyWioness · 56-60, F
@Primnproper: fuck them, then. You asked them to stop, they didn't. Your partner is more important.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@ZenLioness: yes he is very much so...thanks Zen..🤗
LadyWioness · 56-60, F
@Primnproper: always. PM me if you need me. 🤗
SW-User
It depends the reason you broke contact
Primnproper · 56-60, F
They constantly kept on about something that was upsetting for me even when asked to stop..
SW-User
@Primnproper: Well if you care about them, I know I would. Everyone can annoy us at some point, but if they would be close ppl, I know I would
SW-User
yeah,that's for the beat
Primnproper · 56-60, F
What's for the best..
SW-User
@Primnproper: dont let that person when he needs you..
SW-User
It depends on why I broke contact with them...If they did something that ruined my life then I wouldn't care if he or she needed me or not...But I try to be a forgiving person so I would probably have a change of heart and help them.
SW-User
Depends on why you broke contact? If you trust me you can PM me and give more details and I could give a better answer.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
I trust you whole heartedly..
SW-User
@Primnproper: If you wish to then, I will listen.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
@justmerae: thank you..
SW-User
No, I broke contact for a reason
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Thank you...my caring side is fighting a battle right now..
Groofydorkgerdo · 51-55, M
Yeah, what everyone else said.
stannollie · 51-55, M
nope, if youve broken contact then youve had a good reason. if youve stopped been friends or blocked someone etc then leave them in the past & concentrate on the genuine friends you do have
I hear you!
Once established, I don't break contact but keep suffering and am readily willing to help.

Hugs.
sometimeslonelytoo · 51-55, M
Really don't know on this issue. Would depend on the situation I guess.
stannollie · 51-55, M
depends on the circumstances

 
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