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What would you do?

I came online this morning to a couple of DMs from a man I used to know through ep. I used to be on ep when I was 13/14 years old! It was a time when I didn’t really have a handle on my emotions and this person acted like he cared. He gave me a lot of support, we talked a lot and eventually moved over to using Skype. That is where he groomed and abused me - not that I realised that’s what it was at the time. His messages say that he has always looked for me returning to the site, he’s missed me and is a different person now. Part of me thinks I should just block and move on, but there is part of me that wants to know why he did that to me.

Any helpful suggestions?

(I’m not going to name and shame, it’s not for me to do that. He’s probably going to read this so I may get some answers without needing to ask)

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AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

Block him and report him to the authorities but if I was you I wouldn't re-engage with someone who's groomed you in the past.

He's hardly likely to tell you the obvious truth, he did what he did to you because he's a pedophille.

SW-User

Yes, that’s kind of what I’ve been thinking @AntisocialTroll

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@SW-User No matter what he might say to you, the reality is he's very likely to be doing the same thing to other underage users here, you should report him and hand over any evidence you may have, don't let him keep doing this to girls, it is abuse and it's not right.

SW-User

I know you’re right, it’s just something that I’ve tried to block out. I think that’s why it knocked me sideways when I saw the messages today - so many bad memories and emotions just came flooding back. I don’t want anyone else to be taken advantage of like I was, especially if like me they’re at they’re most vulnerable. I also don’t know that I’ve got it in me to do anything about it. I definitely don’t have any evidence left - I deleted all of my old accounts. So it would basically just be my word @AntisocialTroll

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@SW-User I understand where you're coming from but even without evidence you should still report him if you can force self yourself to, I realise it'll stir up shite you'd much rather bury but in the long run knowing you helped put this man on the authorities radar will more than likely help you feel better.

If you really feel you can't report him to the authorities then I'd urge you to tell SW's admin who this man is on here. It's highly unlikely what he did to you is an isolated incident, by telling the site admins at least his account messages etc here could be checked to ensure he's not grooming the young ones on this site if nothing else and they will report him themselves if they find anything really dodgy in his account.

SW-User

I can definitely report him on here. I doubt there will be anything in his account other than maybe connecting to youngsters. Everything with me happened offsite @AntisocialTroll

AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F

@SW-User But if he's been connecting with them here there will be evidence of him asking for off-site details of young girls and possibly evidence of grooming even though the abuse is off site, adult men who are not pedophilles would not be doing that.

Please report him to admin, if you don't quite know what to say send em a message with a link to this thread and give them the username.

SW-User

@AntisocialTroll I will do that, thanks for the advice and not treating me like an idiot

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SW-User

That’s exactly how it happened - I think I just always thought I was street smart and knew what I was doing, but I didn’t at all @AntisocialTroll