Do adult children owe their parents lives after taking care of them for 18 years?

nah. i don’t think we owe them anything for providing the basic needs. they CHOSE to have children so they gotta deal with running the money for it. no one asked to be born and children can’t provide for themselves.

don’t get me wrong, i agree that if my parents ever needed something, i wouldn’t hesitate to help. but that’s more based on our relationship with each other. it’s not a form of “payback” for doing the bare minimum that comes with having a child.

Nah, I already paid them with money I didn’t know I had. Grandpa had left me over £70,000 but couldn’t access it till I was 21 and they spent it all on drugs and boozes so I had nothing. I wasn’t too upset but I don’t own them anything

The only thing we owe them is to be happy and content and independent in our selves. That is if you have good parents. I'm sorry for those that dont

I don't owe them shit, my dad left before I was born and my mom never protected me from the shit that happened to me when I was a child.

i cant speak for everyone but i literally spoil my parents like "just say what u want mama, u want it, u get it" kinda spoil

Family sticks together and helps each other out. To not do so is selfish and self absorbed. It’s give and take as needed.

Well that depends. Some people have evil and abusive parents, unfortunately.

If you come to feel that way about them, it will at bottom be for reasons other than the more utilitarian ones you've spelled out. If those are the [i]only[/i] reasons you can think of for a feeling of gratitude toward them, then somewhere inside, you probably already know how you really feel about this.

In good families where our parents worked hard to bring us up properly and were selfless in doing so, I think we owe them the respect to have them in our lives and to help them if they need it.

I think people owe it to their parents to make good lives for [i]themselves[/i]. As my daughter gets older, I will expect a certain amount of respect and support from her, but her first duty to me is to have a good, fulfilling, productive, honourable, and upright life.

When my mom visited me years ago I paid for everything including her airfare.

I helped my parents out in their later years.

I took very good care of my parents and I'm glad that I have no remorse.

I think it's my responsibility to take care of them.

I love them.