The world is still changing and the kids need to understand the challenges. When I was dating back in the 80's is was uber taboo in Small Town, Mississippi. There were opportunities, but I would never have been able to follow through with them because I would have been grounded and disowned. Yes, that is racist, but that's how it was. If my boys wanted to date someone of another race, I would just hope she loves God, her parents are good to my boy, and they know what they are getting into.
I'm married to a white girl, but I never thought about race as to who I was dating (when I was single). There are still a lot of segregated feelings from all the races.
What I care about is that my kids find love and are happy! I prefer them to marry Christians because God will hear their prayers and have a certain protection and grow up in a Godly family! But I will always support their decitions no matter what! Because they are adults! However It is easier to be married to someone like yourself because they understand you more! If a mate is from a different culture, race, social economic class, educational background, it’s very hard! I married someone from the same race but a different culture and he didn’t understand me at all! Each culture has their own ways and marriage is hard to begin with!
Raise them with morals, be the best example to them. When they know the Lord you won't have to worry about race, it's not the skin but sin, that's the problem
I mean yeah, that's racial discrimination at the very least. Nothing wrong with having preferences but there's absolutely no reason to try and instill them into your kid. It's also just very unkind to your child, to overstep into their love life like that.
I would say so, or at least something that can damage them in the future. Like how about if they do develop feelings for someone of that race? That’s going to fuck them up and they’ll just be afraid to be open to the parent.
@SW-User No... no it doesnt. You just conflate race and culture.
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@Kwek00 Uh...no. Even within Asians, there are cultural similarities because of connections to China. Saying "don't date someone that isn't asian" isn't simply because of race, but because of huge cultural differences. Sometimes race and culture are related. Sometimes they're not. Either way, it doesn't matter because in this case, telling someone to date only Asians excludes everyone else, not because of race, but because of culture.
Race just happens to be associated with certain customs and behaviours that are more relevant because of their relationship to China. Those behaviours can be seen in Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, Indonesian, Filipino, Taiwanese, Malaysian, Burmese, and Mongolian people, as well as individual ethnic groups within each of these countries and areas. Saying "Marry an asian man" primarily refers to the relationship with East and Southeast Asian communities that make it easier to communicate, not to a belief in superiority above other races.
[quote] Even [b]within Asians, there are cultural similarities because of connections to China.[/b] Saying "don't date someone that isn't asian" isn't simply because of race, but because of huge cultural differences. [b]Sometimes race and culture are related. Sometimes they're not.[/b] [...]
Race just happens to be associated with certain customs and behaviours that are more relevant because of their relationship to China. [...] Saying "Marry an asian man" primarily refers to the relationship with East and Southeast Asian communities that make it easier to communicate, not to a belief in superiority above other races.[/quote]
Race and culture aren't connected. It just happens that what you perceive as a certain race has a higher chance to come from a particulair culture. If you meet a person from the same race that was nurtured in another culture, you'll be biased towards that person and treat him/her the same way because you perceive him to come from the culture your mind associate him with. So you don't evaluate people on their individual traits, you let yourself be guided by the biasses that excist that are linked to race. In other words, what you are describing, is judging people by their appearance, and in this case the race they appear to belong too is important.
Certainly for my generation it was far more natural for people to date people of their own races but there were exceptions. While it wasn’t exactly frowned upon it was considered unusual. Of course these days things have loosened up a lot more as we live in a multi racial society. Both my children are married within their own race but I was far more concerned they married someone suitable rather than the racial element.
Yes, it is.The fact that the prohibition is based upon their [b]race[/b] would be a hint. The reason (perhaps the person wants their children to carry on their culture and ethnicity) might be a logical reason for requesting that they not date others, but it is still a race-based restriction.
@DarkHeaven There are many cultures like that, especially people who come from homogeneous lineages, people who can trace their roots back to one ethnicity/culture, one religion, one language. They don’t want to lose that. So while it [b]is[/b] racist, strictly speaking, it’s racist with an *. It’s different from someone whose family just doesn’t want them to date [b]certain[/b] groups but aren’t concerned about them dating outside of their race otherwise.
@LovelyMel Can blacks date asians? Can whites? What if someone is half black? Or quarter black? Or 1/28th black? Is it a matter of how they look? What about a really tan white person? How about an albino black person?
@JamieCurtis0 what about at your house? everyone accepts the girl that isn't black? I'm just curious because I see/hear my employees talk. They don't like it when a black man dates a white girl.....they have make up problems with them at work.
I mean it's a personal preference. If you aren't attracted to somebody of a certain race because of them being that race, you have no control over that. I can't control the fact that I'm not attracted to black girls or Indian girls. I can't control that I'm not attracted to dudes, either. But hey, to each their own. Whoever you your children end up with should be up to them and them alone when they are of age.
I mean, I guess it depends on your outlook with it but, 👀 I'd definitely tell my kids to keep it within the human race side of things... 👀 I'm not progressive enough for these 2-Dimensional waifu weddings yet.. 👀 Or attending a wedding where the bride is wearing a bucket of KFC for a veil and pecking at all the flowers in the aisle the flower girl had just left behind..
Anyone care to comment on the fact that Jewish parents prefer and even mandate that their kids marry another Jew? Is that bigotry or cultural and religious preference?
@Strictgram ostensibly that's only a religious matter, but since the but since just about all religious Jews tend to be ethnic Jews as well, it can be difficult to tell
@LovelyMel This works both ways. Many black parents prefer their daughters not date or marry white men. Is that racist? All parents are entitled to their opinion and the name calling is not productive.
