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Any tips on bettering my confrontational speech skills?

It's hard to just go and talk on the spot professionally when I'm asked something. In a way I kinda know I what I'm wanting to say, but I'm just not that eloquent in my words (not on the spot.). In a way when I hear or see people who know what they want, where they want to go, and how they wanna go about it...its hard because it just seems so easy for them. (I don't know everybody's feelings so maybe they are struggling in some way that I just don't see idk.) In a professional sense they'll say all these things, things in ways that make them seem like what they're saying is outstanding...maybe listing off examples, short stories that relate to these possible great attributes that they may have and are trying to present, or just having so much to say of what they can do and such.

Yet with me that's not the case. I attempt to maybe express how i'd like to contribute and maybe how I like the goal or idea set out ...and maybe I'm noticing people who are already established and it just starts this way for me, but you can't just rule out that all of those people I've seen or heard are...so that just makes me think...they just have good mindset towards this, and I wish I did to. 😧

Thanks for listening to me ramble, if you have anything to add or advice for me, i'd really appreciate it.

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Argile3000 · 26-30, C

I took speech classes and joined the debate team. That helped but not in the way you may think. I learned that listening is as or more important than your reply. Because if you don't properly hear the question or statement your reply will be insufficient.

Also take your time to formulate a response. Don't feel pressured to say the first thing that comes to mind. A good response is worth waiting for. For god's sake don't say um before every sentence. Hope this helps.

DuchessOfMapleSyrup · M

use a dismissive hand gesture, then tell them to blow it out their cornhole.

robbie2499 · 61-69, F

I am not sure why you use the word "confrontational" as that implies conflict. the best advice I can give is be genuine. Don't try to be someone, something you're not because people will pick up on that immediately. Same goes for know your audience but most important know what you are speaking of. If you cannot answer a question be honest and say so. People respond to kindness

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

It's easy to feel admiration or even overwhelmed by folk who are or appear at least, to be confident in their confrontations with others.

I suspect it depends largely on the context in which the confrontation happens.

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