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Why are breakups so hard?

I was in a toxic relationship for the last 2 years but it felt like a decade! The problem was not wanting to end it, we both wanted to keep trying. I felt so drained. 2 weeks now since no contact, I lost the urge to even call him. There's no point talking to a brick wall. I blame myself for even staying that long. I love the feeling of relieve. I guess I will stay single for a while. I can't risk another heart ache! I value my health and peace of mind it took long to come here , wheeeeew

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SW-User

Because when you lose someone important, voluntarily or otherwise, you lose a piece of yourself. All the time and emotion and hopes and dreams you build with them no longer exist. The condition of turning to them to share whatever gets in your mind is now an empty space.
So it is of course hard.
It is an adjustment period, to get used to being yourself without them again.

Keaten · 31-35, M

I understand. You put so much of your life, your love, your being into something, only to have it fail, is the one of the worst feelings in existence. It's not like you were looking for a perfect relationship, just one that was good and comfy. At least you tried and that is a LOT more than MOST people do.🙂

RadiantRuby

@Keaten Thank you I agree, I put so much effort and it wasn't reciprocated. :( None the less time heals

Keaten · 31-35, M

@RadiantRuby You're welcome. I do wish you all the best! You deserve better.🙂

AnonymouslyYours

Glad to hear the weight is lifting from your shoulders. I hope each day brings you closer to peace and clarity. It sounds like you've done all you could, so now that the war is done, self care's much needed.

RadiantRuby

@AnonymouslyYours yes feels like I just got out of prison lol 😀😁

allsfinebime2 · M

🤗

RadiantRuby

@allsfinebime2 Thank u 🤗🤗

allsfinebime2 · M

@RadiantRuby You're very welcome. Thank you for being brave enough to post this. 🙂

MsAnnThropy

They are? 🤔

RadiantRuby

@MsAnnThropy when I was younger it was easier as I get older I noticed becoming attached more to my partners. Thus why I state I need to be single and learn how to control my damn emotions.

JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M

Good luck!

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

6 years for me. Glad you got out

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