How am i to explain to my kid later in life that his dad didnt want him?

I don't think you have to tell him that, but if he asks, don't say it like that.

I would not say his father did not want him. His father doesn't even know him, and won't if he never comes around. I would when the time seems right - when he asks and is old enough to understand a little - tell him his father did not want the responsibility and did not want to take the time to get to know and love him. It is not rejection of your son, but a failure to be a grownup himself.

I would never say it like that. I would say something like this (assuming it's a young boy) "your daddy wasn't ready for and didn't know how to be a father. He was afraid and ran away instead.... and that's so sad because he missed out on such a special little boy! But I'm so glad that you're mine and I have you all to myself, because I sure do love you!"

Don't even try. When he grows up he can find his dad and ask him. By that time he will better know how to evaluate whatever pathetic weaseling story his dad comes up with.

You need to explain to him that is how some people in the world are. It was never about your kid. It was always about who he is as a person.

You just be honest... It's not about your kid not being wanted, but the guy being immature and not knowing what he missed out on

Just be honest with him and remind him that you love him

Don’t say it that bluntly but be honest. Let him be angry.

How many accounts do you have - ? this looks like the 3rd one -

oh gee... that's a toughy

Tell him the truth

I am a man who's father didn't want him. I am not going to tell you it will in any way be easy, what I will say is don't lie to him, it will be hard on both of you but think of how it will be hour him if even later he finds out he didn't want him and you lied to him.

I wouldn’t say it like because it’s not about him. It’s about his dad. I’d probably make up a story that is close to the truth but doesn’t paint him out to be too terrible. You might say the two of you weren’t close and felt that it was better this way.

Just say he got killed in prison while being raped. Or you can say he got killed in a gay bar dressed up as a woman. Or you can say he was killed saving an overturned school bus , or you can say nothing about the "man".

Don't worry about it unless he said that to the kid. What you will have to contend with is what you'll say to your son if in the far future that love of his life decides to abort his child. Heal him if you can.

This is the situation with my niece. She's 18 now and the conversation hasn't been had. I don't entirely approve but I also would hate to see her unhappy.

His dad didn't know him. He didn't want a child in the future for his own reasons.

You don't need to explain something that is not true.

When he's older, say teenager and he asks you just sit him down and explain it to him, your dad's an asshole he didn't want you

That's a horrible thing to have to deal with. I hope he sees you wanted him and that's all that matters.

Tell them exactly that. My mom did that with me with my dad, it’s cool.

Tell them the truth, he was abducted by Aliens

You definitely don't use those words. Say that he had problems or something, but don't say he wasn't wanted. That sounds sadistic.