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Why Is Being Alone Made Out To Be So Awful?

You learn so much about yourself, and you're as free as you want to be..
DeathAngelS300 · 26-30, F
It depends on the person.
Some people naturally crave others. Social interaction and friends often.
Some already knlw who they are so the time is just boring and lonely.

Also some people have had or are having bad things going on in their life and being alone just allows your mind to think about it more.
DeathAngelS300 · 26-30, F
Oh I know I know. I was just saying why some do.
But some take all of it to a crazy level and never want to be alone cause of things I said effect them on a stronger level.

Which is why them may act like being alone is so awful cause for them maybe it is.

For me, I understand both being and not being alone.
I supposed if I had the choice, I'd have both.

And oh yes I know, I feel for others of course no matter the problem.
I was just saying, but in some situations you may not understand why someone thinks being alone is so awful and it might be their reason is a life problem on a dark deep level.
Yes, I understand your point of view as well. Everything goes both ways. All the time.. (:
I had a friend, who was a totally busy body and she LOVED it that way.
She was never alone.
The interactions with others FED her. They invigorated her.
Her profession was ideal = an ESL teacher.

I am, very different.
Though, I too, crave interaction.
Starz93 · F
I agree, being alone isn't bad .. One needs to enjoy their own company. Their own thoughts , give themselves the time to relax in everyway possible and being alone gives you that opportunity. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. A lot mix up the meanings!
I agree. And understand loneliness. I am sure there are many things one can do with themselves...
SW-User
I guess it's a norm. Most people do eventually settle down with someone. However I think part of it is societal pressure and wanting to be like others
Exactly my point. Finally someone who sees through the smoke screen. (:
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
Yes I feel that pressure now
I guess because humans are just social creatures, and if you're a socially anxious/awkward misanthrope like me, people think something's wrong with you. There certainly is not anything wrong with wanting to be alone, though.
@WonderingWanderer: Well we had just gotten back from China, and there are lots of people there, and they had seen how shy I actually am. And I guess it ticked them off.
That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.. Your parents probably don't know you as well as they thought they did.. It happens.
Yes, that's true. Thank you 🙂
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That, they will..
bhatjc · 46-50, M
Can't we all be hermits
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@WonderingWanderer: Yeah. But then people will think we are some type of sage or something else
I don't care what people think, because people don't think.. 🙃
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@WonderingWanderer: That is so true lady Wander. Best to be a Nomad
It's just a social thing. People think others are judging them or thinking they're unlovable if alone. There is freedom and liberation in being single and taking the time to organize and appreciate what you do have.
Hmm.. So in feeling that way, society makes us feel that being alone is not something that's a good thing. But yes, it is an important part of life. If you can't learn to be okay with yourself, how can you expect anyone else to be as well?
@WonderingWanderer: exactly. You've got to love and accept yourself first, know what you want and not rush your progress.
Suethenudist · 31-35, F
I agree. To me it's my time.
Take your time, do not rush. I hope you find what you are looking for. (:
BondGirl84 · 36-40, F
its not made out to be awful - an individual chooses it to be - the individual can change that. Yes u do learn a lot about yourself & u r free as u want to be.... also being in a gud or bad relationship also teaches u about yourself & how u react to certain situations.
I guess it's a mind set. As anything else really. It's important to learn things about yourself, that you would other wise miss if you weren't alone.. A lot of people don't realize that.
SW-User
I think we all benefit from alone time but at the same time we also benefit when we are emotionally intimate with someone. It just depends on what a person needs most at a given time.
Thing is, it's hard to be emotionally intimate with other people, because most are untrustworthy backstabbers
SW-User
@jnel998: That is true, a lot of people will betray. And that is why it takes time to connect and open up to someone. Because trust builds slowly.
SW-User
it's fine for the first few years....

when you get into the next decade it's starts to become...... less fun.
That is loneliness.. So you've experienced it then?
SW-User
unfortunately, yes I have
Hmmm.. Well you can change that, you have all the power over your relationships..
SoundHound · 56-60, M
It's usually a necessary season for our life. Sometimes unwelcome but necessary
SoundHound · 56-60, M
@WonderingWanderer: cause if we were given a choice to not have to go through these loneliness seasons I'm pretty sure we wouldn't choose it
You are right, you don't have to be alone if you do not desire to be. (:
SoundHound · 56-60, M
Indeed. Sometimes it's good for us though, I hate to say
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Of course, I wasn't suggesting that at all. A healthy relationship is great.. I just mean that it's not bad to be alone...?
Cause God said it was bad
Lol I'm just teasing you.. It's nice to be alone sometimes.. You don't get nagged and restricted.. Sigh 🙄🙄. Lol 😄
Lol, then we are in agreement..
Yeah *giggles
SW-User
Sometimes a book is better when you have a friend you are sharing it with. Sometimes it's not.
Then make friends. (: If that's what you desire. You don't need to depend on someone to fulfill a certain part of you.
Hamody · 31-35, M
I don't think being alone is healthy
Neither is always being surrounded by people. It makes you lose your mind in just as a similar way..
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That makes sense.. I just think it's good for people to be on their own, for a time period anyway. Or as long as they choose to be..
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
Maybe but it does get lonely
That depends on you.. I'm sure it's not all peaches and cream everyday.. But that's life..

 
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