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Are two parents even necessary these days or is that too 1950s?

Its too 1950s people dont need 2 parents. It's not needed because most people dont have that anyway
It is still what is best. Two to make a baby. Two to share the pregnancy. Two to support physically and emotionally. One parent for holding each hand of that child, and maybe children. Yes, there are single parents. And they do the best they can. Just like couples do. Too 1950s? Bite your tongue. These days people need all the help they can get and that includes raising children. People are spread out. Families are drifting apart. Two jobs. Less time. Who gives a damn what people don't have or expect anymore? I only know what I know. It is when you devalue the power and the love of two-that is when you make the world a darker, lonelier place. And I add two to watch them grow and leave and become adults and likely parents. And then grow old together, still holding hands.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Those are values I don’t think that should ever go away. I believe there should always be strong female and male role models in children’s lives even if the parents hate each other.
seashells · 26-30, F
@Keepitsimple I think they are going away you either have one or the other these days
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@seashells They are but I don’t think it should be ok for a parent to bail on their kids lives. I think kids need both parents or parental figures in their life.
Longpatrol · 31-35, M
Well I’d say my dad did a solid job of raising two kids by himself.
seashells · 26-30, F
@Longpatrol see just one parent
Are two legs really necessary? You could get a prosthesis or use a crutch.

There are about a thousand reasons why a two-parent household is optimal to raise children. Sometimes it's not possible.
@Longpatrol With two parents:

Somebody can be unable to cope for a few hours. There's a backup.

If one loses their job or has hours cut, the other can help take up the slack.

There are two opinions available in difficult decisions.

If one parent dies there's still one left.

It's not always true, and it's not gender differentiated, but often one parent is Nurturer and the other the Voice of Common Sense.
seashells · 26-30, F
@Mamapolo2016 these days it's really not common it seems. Most people I know didnt have 2 parents
@seashells How it IS is not always how it should be. You can live on ice cream alone, but it's not the most beneficial diet.
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
I wish my mom was still alive
The Census Bureau reported in 2016 that 69% of children under 18 in the U.S. lived with both parents.

The single parent household is NOT the way most childen are raised.
@seashells And where is the father? Tell me he is going to support you financially in part? Spend time with his baby? It is hard. I raised a son and went to nursing school and worked. I had a husband at the time who supported me in doing that. But it was still severe. Do you have family or friends that can help?
seashells · 26-30, F
@PoetryNEmotion the father pretty much doesnt want to help or be in the kids life. When I asked for money he told me no and just doesnt bother. I dont really have family and I dont know if any friends could help. Some are in not the best positions themselves
@seashells Take him to court. He helped make this baby. He can help support it financially. It won't cost you I think. He can pay. Friends can support you emotionally. Being pregnant is a big thing. If you have a support group, you can talk with other expectant mothers. It will help. Contact social services in your area. They can give you info. And maybe even help financially. You don't have to do this all alone.
And I am going to add, this question only made me more sad. To even think two parents are so devalued. So underestimated. I feel like crying. And I am not a substance that falls white from the sky either...
@seashells I am sorry you had no visible father. So you wouldn't give a decent man a chance to join you in this worthy task? I know the idea is foreign, but it has merit. Is that what this world is doing: causing people to throw ideas away?
seashells · 26-30, F
@PoetryNEmotion there isnt anyone worthy who comes near me. Every guy who Ithink is decent turns out not to be
@seashells Then you are choosing the wrong men. What qualities do you want in one who stands beside you? Make a list. Find him. He is out there. Don't give up. He is looking for you. I know this. Stick to the list. You know exactly what a good man is.
RemovedUsername869236 · 41-45, F
Necessary, probably not anymore. But, it's still best if the kid gets the love and stability of a 2 parent household. At least that's what the numbers say.

That said, I've seen some pretty crappy 2 parent setups, with severy screwed up kids as well.

Bottom line, there's no universal formula to being a successful parent. You just have to do the best with whatever cards you've been dealt.
courtney0380 · 36-40, F
I don’t think so I was a single mom for my daughters first 9 years.
It would be nice to have dad working and mom staying home with the kids. I was fortunate to have that but these days some families need 2 incomes - one to pay for the day to day expenses and the other to pay for day care for the kids.
@MarmeeMarch Or Mom working and Dad home with the kids
@Mamapolo2016 either way
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seashells · 26-30, F
@Greenbare and if the father died or doesnt give a shit then what?
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Harriet03 · 41-45, F
Parents today = 1 test tube + 1 hand.
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
It helps financially
Magenta · F
Of course. It's nature/natural. To devalue that structure is dishonorable. I believe it is part of the breakdown of society. There is no standard now.

I agree with my beloved Poe and Quietrumble.
ForeverGrowingOld · 22-25, F
Psychologically, 2 parents are best.

Course it should be, 2 good parents are best.

And really one or both parents don't have to be blood relatives of the child... They just have to love them
Straylight · 31-35, F
Is it a nessecity? I suppose not. But you can't discount the value of having a loving couple care for a child. Not to mention for a parent to have a partner to lean on.
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A child should have maternal and paternal role models.

 
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