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How do you deal with people who are determined to make your life miserable? Lol

I knew someone on EP, she's nice and a good person... but, every time we talk, it's all about "how she's worthless and nobody cares about her etc". I do like to listen to people's problems but I also can't stand attention seekers that much... and it'd be rude to stop replying to her. So, what would you do?
Tell it to her straight. Either she'll understand or y'all will have a falling out. But, hey, at least you won't have to hold back anymore, right?
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I agree, be honest, it can go one way or another but at least you'll know where you both stand.
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Swoop62 · M
If she is good friend otherwise, message and never mention anything about her complaints, talk and ask about other things and hopefully she will pick upon your desire to not stay on downer subjects.
SW-User
If we talk about something else her replies become short XD
Swoop62 · M
She wants to get back to miserable obviously, don't let her take you and eventually just say gotta go.
SW-User
if they tell you their problem and ignore your advice over and over then there's not much you can do to help them, some people seem to want to be miserable. I generally stop talking to people like that, they are dead weight.
SW-User
I agree, but still it's kinda mean to ignore her, those people are toxic though
updown2020 · 61-69, M
Well some people are just negative that's how they are and the more people the can bring down with them the better. The idea is not to get suched into that yes its hard but do you want to become like them? The answer is no of course but sometime you have to be mean but nice at the same time. People make how their lives are they have a choice. Who to say they are not lying about everything they talk to you about.

I was talking to someone on another site for about a good two years when it all came out every word she said to me and other was 100% lies. Just be very careful you have to look out for your health.
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I don't talk to her anymore. I have my issues too and I don't want things to get worse. Even if she's lying about something, I still believe she needs help, but she has to decide she should get it, and I hope she does
FlyHighGirl · 36-40, F
Try to help her , give her advises , to see the good things in everything , you don't have to listen to her negative talking .. so try to make it positive.. maybe later she will start feeling good and talking about goals and life instead of her usual chat ... but if she continues the same , then stop talking her ...don't ever feel guilty about it cause u did what u have to . talking to those kind of people will make u miserable by time without even know it !!!!!!
SW-User
The thing is that, I'm afraid I'll say the wrong words when trying to make her feel better. I'm not a therapist yet XD
FlyHighGirl · 36-40, F
you won't say wrong words and u do not need to be a therapist ... I am sure it's enough to be kind , give it a try .. u will never know till u try
Blessedsoul81 · 41-45, C
[c=#BF0080] Aww sometimes honey we just need to step away as it can be unhealthy to be be around someone's negativity. Take a step back sweetie, but don't stop loving them! <3[/c]
Blessedsoul81 · 41-45, C
@LastingSunshine: [c=#BF0080] Aww thankies honey! I think we'd be awesome friends! <3[/c]
Blessedsoul81 · 41-45, C
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Most definitely :*
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SW-User
I agree. I already ended the conversation and am not planning to talk to her anymore. I had to do it.
Axtearxofxshine · 26-30, F
Give them a piece of your mind, tell them exactly what you think if they start bitching about you, get rid of them in your life. And tell them your not a punching bag or even rubbish bin where they can just throw in miserable things!
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If after trying to explain to her why she shouldn't keep acting like this, she doesn't stop, then, yes you have the right to stop replying to her.
SW-User
I guess so....
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
I'd request her to talk about something else or stfu, and trust me I can be very convincing as I use passive aggressive karate
Primnproper · 56-60, F
I'd tell them you get back what you put out there..put negative out that's what comes back, you have to own your own behaviour..
Next time she says something negative about herself, just say "ok"
Ignore her or confront her
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Ignoring is mean, confronting is awkward, the later is better though. Thanks XD
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Haha omg I hate people like that
TheDarknessHasFallen · 41-45, M
[c=#BF0080] How did it go with her? did you ever cobfront her? <3[/c]
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Imma do this thank you :D

 
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