If you get to be with somebody or do get rejected is there anything good to come from that?

Yeah, in a way. There will always be a list of the good and the bad, but none of that matters because it's more about how you will respond to it.

Are you gonna fall off the rails when disappointment happens or are you going to soldier on?
What about when you're with someone? How are you going to savour the time spent? Or will you regret it?

The ultimatum is your [i]choice.[/i]

If you're paying attention, it can be a valuable learning experience.