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Should people name others when writing about their grievance or not?

I am a little dismayed that some people choose to publically name those whom they don't like or who have annoyed them. I think that's very unfair and feel they can air their grievances about the issue without naming them. Is it just me or does anyone else agree with my sentiments?
DanielChristensen · 46-50, M Best Comment
In poor taste. Your personal issue with someone is just that, personal. If they're being a stalker or something, you block or you go to a site administrator directly.
Zoranna · F
@DanielChristensen Yes! I've done that with someone. I didn't block them but reported them and received advice from Admin that my complaint was "Valid" and they removed them. They've come back with another username and they've blocked me but I do hope the Administrators are keeping an eye on them. Cheers.

Paliglass · 41-45, F
I like it when they do that. I can look at the profile of the person and gauge how true it is.

Also if the person is a problem then why not name and shame.

Happened to me on EP because of the women who have affairs with married men - they mostly hated me. I thought it was funny and it didn't bother me.
Paliglass · 41-45, F
@Zoranna it's better than messaging people from friends list privately and telling them all how upset you are and that this person is horrible etc. That is manipulation and more effective because making a naming post does look bad on the person making it.

People name others out of exasperation because they're basically making a cry for help. So 9/10 times the person being posted about is probably being extremely difficult.
Zoranna · F
@Paliglass I think it does reflect badly on the person posting it most times, and feel it should be done privately. Grievances can be aired publically and I'm sure the person implied will get it as they know what they've done. And as someone else quite rightly pointed out: There are the "Block" and "Reporting" facilities available, and they work.
Paliglass · 41-45, F
@Zoranna yes, this is true. Still I like reading them and it didn't bother me when it happened to me. But then I suppose it does bother others.

I don't know. I suppose sometimes depending on people involved it's better or fair and other times it isn't.
SW-User
It’s uncalled for.
Zoranna · F
@SW-User Thank you!
SW-User
Yes - I had that issue after somebody blocked me. They'd write stories about me leave slurs over friend's posts. I can only assume I was a lot more important to them than vice versa
Zoranna · F
@SW-User That's despicable, and them blocking you was to your benefit, not theirs.
SW-User
@Zoranna thank you ☺️
Zoranna · F
@SW-User You're welcome. 🤗
I completely agree with you and I've posted about this before. You can block people and report people. You don't need to do this public shaming. It makes this place less safe for everyone, especially because we never actually know if the accusations are right. Screenshots are easily faked.
Zoranna · F
@NuclearSub Thanks. That's why I said it's okay to air the grievance but not expose the person. Cheers.
@Zoranna Mind you, there was a situation where I was very involved with someone on here who was pushing me to reveal my irl identity, and then someone publicly exposed them as a fake account -- the pictures they were using were from someone else's Facebook. That was painful but I think justified because they were really messing with people's minds (and using someone else's personal pictures which is not cool.)
Zoranna · F
@NuclearSub Wow! That's shocking and I'm sorry you had to experience that. There are always exceptions to the rule but I would prefer to be informed privately rather than publically, then block and report.
SW-User
A lot of people agree. It's childish. 🙄
Zoranna · F
@SW-User It is. Thanks.
SW-User
I find the drama here quite ridiculous at times. I am quite sure there is no need to call people out, as I am sure most of us already know those who like to stir the pot. Naming and shaming is uncalled for, and I wonder which person it says the most about.
Zoranna · F
@SW-User Yep, I agree with you. There are those though who feel they can and have the right to do so, and they have. I know we're not all going to agree on this although so far, most do. :-)
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
There are ways of venting your frustration without the need to name somebody.
And let's be honest. You'd only do that if you deliberately wanted others to think the same way as you !
So it's a manipulative act too.
Zoranna · F
@Picklebobble2 I think so too. Very good point! Manipulative ... hadn't thought of that. :-)
It is against TOS. I should think it could be solved privately via pm. I agree with you wholeheartedly.
Zoranna · F
@PoetryNEmotion Awww shucks, thank you. You've made my morning. 🤗
@Zoranna You are most welcome. It is 8:05 pm here. Have a golden day.
Zoranna · F
@PoetryNEmotion Thank you. You have a lovely, peaceful evening. 🥂
I do lol. I speak my truth. Im never going out of my way to protect the feelings or identity of people who cross me.
Zoranna · F
@DarlingSelah Fair enough, but would you get upset if they did the same to you?
@Zoranna I guess it depends
lakergoy · 36-40, M
They feel like they're protecting the rest of us
Zoranna · F
@lakergoy You reckon? Maybe, but I think they're just trying to be mean in most cases.
lakergoy · 36-40, M
Well that too. They must have thier revenge!!! Hahaha
Zoranna · F
@lakergoy Yep! :-)
Trevo · 26-30, M
I agree. Nobody wants/needs to know that someone doesn't like them
Zoranna · F
@Trevo Thanks. It can be very hurtful.
I did it once, it wasn't meant to nasty but other users commented and turned it into a bitch fest and I was mortified, it was not what I intended. Now I'll vent but not name, mostly.
Zoranna · F
@InOtterWords How awful for you, particularly when it was unintentional. :-( As was pointed out to me by someone else, there may be a valid reason for naming and shaming, but over petty things, I think not.
@Zoranna and I've been on the receiving end, I had a friend, a good friend that would talk about me to others and they would message me and say "I didn't know you were xxxxx" and so on. He would say he only ever said good things about me but I still didn't like him talking about me, it was one of the many reasons we fell out and I eventually ended up blocking him because it was upsetting me too much. I've been told he often will comment on a post badmouthing me - I was right to block.
Zoranna · F
@InOtterWords I can imagine how upsetting that would have been, and yes, you were right to block him. It does reflect more on what sort of person he is though, and not on you. Chin up. 🤗
Zonuss · 41-45, M
I don't think its really necessary. But people do it because they enjoy putting others on the spot. Or they love drama so they will get a reaction out of others.
Zoranna · F
@Zonuss Very true Zonus. :-(
Zonuss · 41-45, M
@Zoranna Smile Zori poo. 🙂
Zoranna · F
@Zonuss Okie doke! ☺

 
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