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I Have Never Had A Relationship

I'm 25 years old (almost 26) and I technically haven't had a relationship, you know, ignoring the bf/gf thing you have when you're like 7 and whatever you or in this case I, did back then.
And in all honesty, I'm not entirely sure why. I know for a fact that 1 reason is because I don't actively look for one but other than that, I've got no clue.
Maybe I'm just oblivious or maybe my standards are too high, which would be strange considering.
I always thought that this is something that just happens at random, not something you should go out hunting for.
But going by that logic, I think I might be one of those "forever alone" people.
I'm not that against it but sometimes it can feel like you need someone, even if just for a cuddle.
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Notanymore · 36-40, M
Bite the bullet go online....find a dating site and take a few swings.....have a little fun..... take some lumps.....you got this
PurpleStar · 26-30, F
@Notanymore I've thought about that, just some issues there ...
Aside from the fact that I don't take pictures of myself and aside from some old photos my mom still has from me ... I'm never in a picture. I do this on purpose.
Also, I don't think I'd be comfortable starting anything with someone using an actual dating site (tinder, whatever else is out there). Probably just a minor thought that might not actually hinder anything in the future but a thought nonetheless.

Nonetheless ... word of the day it seems
Notanymore · 36-40, M
@PurpleStar all cool and very adequate concerns.... very respectful and honorable reasons.....now take a double shot of whiskey.....and eat those reasons. Give your phone to someone....get some decent pictures of yourself living life and get on a dating site. If you do it and don't like it.... delete it. But if there's a question in your mind....try it
PurpleStar · 26-30, F
@Notanymore I know that's probably metaphorical but I don't drink ...
I also don't use a phone, I mean, I do, for the reasons it was invented, calling and sometimes texting but no internet or anything.
Not to mention that anything you put out online, stays online and thus there no (more) pictures of me that goes out anywhere.

PS: you wanna have my phone? Cuz Idk who else to give it too ...
Notanymore · 36-40, M
@PurpleStar okay. I like your style.... you're going to have to be an old school baller.....like when I was young. Go out! Make eye contact.....feel the air for good signals (or bad ones....it doesn't really matter) and introduce yourself as a man that finds said lady attractive and maybe interesting
PurpleStar · 26-30, F
@Notanymore I'm not sure my antennas work correctly. I mean, they have been standing still for the past +20 years. And unless they're as obvious as that 1 girl in school when I was like 10, I'm not sure if I'll pick up anything. Back then, I thought she was annoying as shit but right now, I wish all girls/guys were as obvious as her.
Also go out to where ...? I mean, walking aimlessly in a shopping center or something isn't really my idea of having a good time. I don't like parties, bars, etc and definitely don't want to find someone who does. Especially since, I'm not a child anymore. I'm too old for that shit.

Hmmm, maybe I am the problem O.O
Notanymore · 36-40, M
@PurpleStar if you're too old for a bar..... I'm a list cause... Anyway....go to the gym....the hiking trails.... concerts.... it's summertime..... people are out. If you can't pick up any signals you may have to just introduce yourself at random. Be a gentleman. Be sincere. What do you have to lose?
PurpleStar · 26-30, F
@Notanymore I'm always a gentleman, I'm also always "sincere", nice in general. I never really expect anything in return tho ... except like a thank you.
Go to the gym ... hiking trails ... I don't live in the US and while I have no real issue with age, I'd rather stay within my age group and not go to +50 (yet). That's about 90% of people in the gym and on hiking trails here.
Concerts ... <- same thing as bars, parties, etc. Maybe it's where I live but my age group doesn't really go out. Aside from the kids going out drinking and shit.

Aside from that, while I never really thought about it, I meet a lot of people. I go out on my bike often, go shopping, get groceries, so on and so forth and I talk to a lot of people, really easily. Maybe I need a sign to hold, spin around and stuff.
Maybe I am just, as I said, oblivious to the whole signal thing. Can't people be straight forward? I mean, I know that if I'd be, I'd probably be on several lists ... but not the ones you want to be on XD