Why do women who dress sexy complain about being objectified?

By dress sexy I am talking about shirts that expose nipples cleavage or belly, tight yoga pants or tight pants in general where we can see camel toe and panty lines and short shorts where the ass cheeks hang out and shorts so tight we can see the outline of the vulva and panties. Or dresses and skirts that go far north of the knee. Also clicking (loud) boots and high heels draw attention as well. I dont get why women would dress sexy but want to complain about guys focusing on their bodies instead of their mind. Are they just saying that because people are afraid that admitting to wanting attention would make people think they are slutty or do they actually believe men are capable of not being blinded by female beauty when its on full display?

For the record I do not believe nor am I calling for women to not dress sexy or the way they want. Just frustrated with their reactions to men they come across when they dress that way.

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RubySoo · 56-60, F

Everyone, man or woman should be able to dress how they like without others objectifying them. If a womn choises not to wear a bra for instance under a tight dress.... it doesnt automatically follow she wants men to slobber ather has she walks down the street. She may just not find bras comfortable.

But....i am a believer in dressing appropriately for the situation. I wouldnt wear a tight fitting low cut tiny dress and heels to do my weekly shop, or wear my gym gear at a restaurant. Some do....and its thats how they are comfortable thats up to them......some people really dont think fir a second that what they wearis anybodies business but their own.

Its a real shame though some people at the sight on a flash of thigh or cleavage turn into leering creeps who make others feel uncomfortable in their own skin.

ghostofapu · 26-30, M

@RubySoo It depends on the men. Most men sneak peaks because of our hormones. The creeps are the one who stare.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@ghostofapu so if your saying its 'hormones' you are implying it cant be helped and not taking responsibility for doing it?
So its not what the woman wears then?

I take it dont have kids?? One day...if you ever walk down the high street with yr 15 year old daughter and see the way men look at her.....you might thing differently.....

ghostofapu · 26-30, M

@RubySoo Im saying its a natural reaction to stare. You can control it when you notice it but when it first happens you cant control it. Like when a man rounds the corner and sees a girl in shorts so tight and short half her ass is literally exposed. Hes going to look but when she turns around the fear of getting caught it helps him snap out of it.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@ghostofapu its rude. Its natural for men to be rude??? Really?

ghostofapu · 26-30, M

@RubySoo How is it rude? Admiring a women's beauty then looking away to prevent her discomfort? You boost her ego and avoid making her feel uncomfortable.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@ghostofapu dont believe you 'boost her ego'.
What guys often fail to understand is a woman tends to dress for herself...how she feels good..not to please guys. Ive never 'felt good'being srared at by a man. Its un nerving and yes...rude.