If nothing stays the same, why does it make sense to so many to resist change?

Had I known a health issue could cost me everything
I would have prepared for the down time when I couldn't work
Had I known a doctor ,,using only an xray ,would tell my wife nothing was wrong with me ,,I was only seeking pain meds ,,,I would have demanded an MRI
and possibly sued him for making such a statement ,,it cost my wife to doubt me and was the final straw ,,she left me ,,she only heard "he is an addict " not his pain is real ,,he is self medicating ,but he is in pain .

Had I known that comment his opinion was in my medical records ,,,I would not have shared them with other doctors that also labeled me a drug seeker ,,,so they refused to order an MRI ,,these events cost me dearly and 20 yrs of pain ,and no one willing to help me ,,,if I could have seen what was coming ,,I may have altered events

But ,,,it was my being homeless that lead to strangers helping me
enabling me to look for my kids I had not seen in 12 yrs
my learning to trust God ,,and not my own abilities

if I knew I was going to loose all the things I loved ,,my wife ,my home ,my company ,my ability to work (even play Gigs and make money with my name and my talents ,,I couldn't stand long enough to do a show )I would have invested all the money I had in tools and music equipment ,so I had an income when I was unable to work ...I was a star ,,money was not an issue ,and I had a very in demand company ,,,but it was my skills that made it work ,,but I could have trained someone to keep my company going ,may have saved me ,but I did not see this coming
and I was not going to train someone to take my jobs ,steal my company

Had I known any of this was coming ,,,I would have done anything to stop it from happening ,,,,sold things ,hired someone to manage my company ,went to friends and asked for help before I lost my will to live and my self esteem

But though those event were painful ,and the scariest time in my life

I now have a better life ,,with my kids and grandkids
and a easer life ,no longer requiring me to work in pain and afraid of the outcome of my inability to work ,,
it was all timing ,and desperation that lead me to accept
"This has happened ,but this is not the end ",,this is a new beginning .

I am no longer pushing myself and needing drugs just to walk ,and pushing myself to work when I'm unable ,,
Now I have a peace of mind I had not known my entire life ,,
its always been if I was unable to preform and work ,,,I was nothing .

Now I am an awesome Dad and Grandpa ,,and my family helps me
and doctors have finally done an MRI that shows the extent of my disease ,
and I am no longer seen as a drug seeker
I am finally getting help ,,,I am in pain ,,but I have a calm within myself that I never knew before all this,,
so it all worked out and I am finally happy
But had anyone told me I was going to loose everything I worked so hard for ,,in pain ,,and I was going to look back and see it as a good thing ,It would be worth it
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I would have told them they were crazy as hell
No way a man could go through all that and not kill himself
But I did go through it
and now that I made it ,,,I am glad
I was working so hard to make my young wife happy ,yet she wasn't
who knew she would leave me ,,and let me end up homeless ,and while I was disabled really needing her to stand by me ..
As some say "Karma is a bitch ,,,she was in a wreck some time after she left me
Now she is disabled and told me she is sorry she didn't believe me
now she knows how it feels ,,she would do anything to be out of pain now too
even buy pills from others ,not prescribed to her
now doctors think she is a drug seeker ,no one believes her pain is real either

we had just paid our home off ,,she set out to ruin me
she succeeded ,,,,but it was just a speed bump in my life
I am no longer under all that stress
and my girls and I became Christian Gospel music stars
my band was my kids ,,they loved touring with Dad ,and doing something we all loved
Music is still the glue in our lives ,,and of coarse ,God

Unlike wives ,,my kids wont ever abandon me when I need them
They became nurses to take care of me ,,when I can no longer take care of myself
Now I am glad it all worked out like it has

But no way in hell ,would I willingly have gone through all this had I been able to avoid it ,,and had I been able to interfere ,I would have cost myself a blessing .

I now embrace Gods will ,,He knew exactly what I needed
I am glad the answer to some of my prayers ,was NO ,,
This was for your good ,I have something better for you .

Are they just scared of what they might lose and haven't even considered how much more they'd gain?

Because when there is resistance to change for the good or acceptance of something that has already changed most of us don't weigh the change in terms of "sensibility" and logical pros and cons.

We want to hold on to the familiar which, true or not, feels like we have some control.

Nothing could be further from the truth!

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Not all change is good. Far from everything that came before is either. Gotta have a balance.

Did you just answer your own Q? Lolz

Not all change is positive. Most people resist negative changes.