Should my Therapist know

@SinlessOnslaught perhaps but she has gotten irritated with me before.

@heartless Why?

@SinlessOnslaught because i have expressed in the past my feelings that i can’t get over and she said she’s not giving me a free pass but it wasn’t about what she said. it was her tone. i don’t want a free pass. i just want to be able to be happy with my husband without feeling lonely inside and aroused for another man.

@heartless Her job is to listen to your problems and help you through them. Idk what she means by "free pass".

@SinlessOnslaught i think it means her not condoning it. which i never said anything to her about that . i honestly do not want to feel anything sexual
for this man. it’s not even me mentally , it’s my body that talks , so to speak. i’ve never been this open about stuff like this in public online but i’m desperate. i can’t tell him i want to die inside bc i can’t stop my arousal for him. i don’t want to hurt my husband . i think my hormones in life started later

@heartless You should be able to tell your therapist all of this. If you can't, find a new therapist.

@heartless you need a new therapist.

@heartless It's totally normal to be attracted to other people. Where you go from there is another story. But you're human. We are all sexual beings. It's unrealistic to think that because we are in monogamous relationships we won't feel attraction for others. I tell my hubby about all the people I think are hot. Okay, most of them are on TV or in movies and wouldn't want to do me for a million bucks but the point is attraction doesn't mean infidelity.