I Believe A Guy And A Girl Can Be Just Friends
This is something so personal and painful I keep to myself and struggle with at times. I don't have any girlfriends !! In a sense of female close friends, besides the ones we just do pleasantlies and go our ways..My friends are guys and guys have always been my close friends. I am particularly thinking about this at this moment because few hours ago, a group of girls I have never met and have never seen who clearly knew who I was, were at the same hanging out joint I go to socialise sometimes when loneliness creeps in or just want change scenery. I admit usually i am with my brother or, well my guy friends but this time I was alone. I am very comfortable there and feel safe enough to go alone, get myself a drink find a quiet corner away from the crowd have my earphones tight in my ears, stare the screen of my phone, listen to music, watch YouTube videos or go on social media etc. I usually stay an hour or so just to change scenery from home and I am literally 5 minutes walk away.I did all i usually do and just mentioned i even had my back turned to everyone. After my first drink I went to grab another one and a trip to the bathroom and that's when I noticed a group of 3 girls sitting not far from my table and looked like they were having fun laughing and chatting etc
I went to the bathroom first then to the bar to get my second drink. While I was waiting two of the girls came and stood next to me waited to get served they were giggling whispering and overall the vibe was a bit off. I tried to have an eye contact or just to notice them but to no interested in they part I thought, So got my drink and went back to my seat. Then as was sitting with my back to the crowd in about 10mn ice block fell to my table and naturally I turnedto see where it came from and the girls were looking at me and laughing I admit I gave them the look and back to my youtube videos. Few minutes later two of the girls walked up to me and said " you're Ash brother, sorry sister .right ?" And as was still upset about the ice being thrown at me I just gave them death stare and told them to f-off... Then one of them said we just wanted to tell you that we heard you only hang out with guys and girls who only hang out with guys are just "bitches insecure and annoying"
then they turned around to walk back to their table I got up grab what was left in my glass walked behind them quickly poured it on their table with angry face and aggression then said this "is why I don't deal with you" and then walked away. Went straight home. Most people saw the whole incident and there were a few and bouncers know who I am and felt protected which in some way gave me the courage to stand up to the bullies. I've had trouble with guys as well and by no means I am making girls look bad it is what it is and it broke my heart a little. Background: I went to a boarding (all girls) school and away from home from young age by the time I came home all I wanted was to be with my family. Friends I made from school my only connection is social media and only its been less than year and none of them from my town. Everyone else in my town is a stranger really and my family keeps to themselves that's just how it is! Most of guy friends i have are also my brother friends as he stayed home and didn t get sent away so he have friends in town and close or we become friends because they approached me in friendly manner and sometimes flirting but ended up in friend zone. Almost growing up in boarding school and very strict (home and school) i am used to being by myself and love my own company it seems that I have to change my ways but I don't know how. There is absolutely none I can talk to about this except put it down here on my stories and get it off my chest. At school I made two friends. One younger which I was like a mentor and the other is frenemy really, our friendship is based on who is best pretty much in everything but we share a great sense of humour and great ambition. Lately we are just internet friends since we left school and lives miles apart. I have always been the girl who keeps to herself. I want to make girls friends but is something never bothered me as I absolutely without a shadow of doubt know a guy and a girl can be friends and my brother is my bestest of friends as well as being my brother for now and always! The whole thing has left me thinking ..Wondering...That's all...
I went to the bathroom first then to the bar to get my second drink. While I was waiting two of the girls came and stood next to me waited to get served they were giggling whispering and overall the vibe was a bit off. I tried to have an eye contact or just to notice them but to no interested in they part I thought, So got my drink and went back to my seat. Then as was sitting with my back to the crowd in about 10mn ice block fell to my table and naturally I turnedto see where it came from and the girls were looking at me and laughing I admit I gave them the look and back to my youtube videos. Few minutes later two of the girls walked up to me and said " you're Ash brother, sorry sister .right ?" And as was still upset about the ice being thrown at me I just gave them death stare and told them to f-off... Then one of them said we just wanted to tell you that we heard you only hang out with guys and girls who only hang out with guys are just "bitches insecure and annoying"
then they turned around to walk back to their table I got up grab what was left in my glass walked behind them quickly poured it on their table with angry face and aggression then said this "is why I don't deal with you" and then walked away. Went straight home. Most people saw the whole incident and there were a few and bouncers know who I am and felt protected which in some way gave me the courage to stand up to the bullies. I've had trouble with guys as well and by no means I am making girls look bad it is what it is and it broke my heart a little. Background: I went to a boarding (all girls) school and away from home from young age by the time I came home all I wanted was to be with my family. Friends I made from school my only connection is social media and only its been less than year and none of them from my town. Everyone else in my town is a stranger really and my family keeps to themselves that's just how it is! Most of guy friends i have are also my brother friends as he stayed home and didn t get sent away so he have friends in town and close or we become friends because they approached me in friendly manner and sometimes flirting but ended up in friend zone. Almost growing up in boarding school and very strict (home and school) i am used to being by myself and love my own company it seems that I have to change my ways but I don't know how. There is absolutely none I can talk to about this except put it down here on my stories and get it off my chest. At school I made two friends. One younger which I was like a mentor and the other is frenemy really, our friendship is based on who is best pretty much in everything but we share a great sense of humour and great ambition. Lately we are just internet friends since we left school and lives miles apart. I have always been the girl who keeps to herself. I want to make girls friends but is something never bothered me as I absolutely without a shadow of doubt know a guy and a girl can be friends and my brother is my bestest of friends as well as being my brother for now and always! The whole thing has left me thinking ..Wondering...That's all...
