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Any husbands shut down emotionally after finding out wife's pregnant?

Husband has become so distant since finding out about pregnancy. I've put on a little weight and I've been tired and throwing up a lot. Not exactly a lot of fun but.. finding it disturbing husband won't talk to me, look at me, flinches away when I try to touch him. Don't know what to do. I've tried in a very nice way to be like hey what on your mind babe? Let's talk... he just gets up and walks away. Won't acknowledge me at all.
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Obviously, he is not happy about the pregnancy.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
I guess.. he acted really excited for the first couple months.. then after first couple sonograms I think he started to realize it's real. That when all this started happening@greenmountaingal
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Brassm0nk3y It's a lot of responsibility to become a parent. Did he want to be a dad?
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
He did. He kept asking when we were going to try. Shortly after that we found out we were pregnant@greenmountaingal
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Brassm0nk3y I've heard of this happening before. The reality comes as a shock to a man who hasn't really considered all the implications. Usually, the husband adjusts to the situation in a few more months.

This has got to be hard on you. (I assume you've checked out whether he is having an affair or going through some other personal secret situation, like gambling debts or drug addiction). I'd suggest you give him a little time, but if this continues after the child is born, I'd draw the line and insist on counseling. You need him to live up to his dreams of being a dad, and part of that is giving you emotional support.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
Thanks very helpful@greenmountaingal