My bio mom that abandoned asked me for the honest truth and I have it to her. Is that bad (please read)?

My bio mother who left us and cheated on my dad is trying to get together and be friends with me and ask why we won't forgive her. I told her straight up that if she was a REAL mother, she would have not abandoned us and be very selfish. Then I told her, "I don't want you to be my friend, I wanted you to be my mother which you will NEVER be!" sorry but my mom asked and I have her the truth. Is that bad? She didn't message me back after that. She left my dad heartbroken. He really loved her.

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Newandimproved · 61-69, M

bad? no
harsh? yes
deserved? maybe

she asked how you felt

you had every right to express yourself

do yourself a favor and mentally tell yourself this is your current position - and give yourself the ability to change your mind IF you ever want to

SylviaStarr · F

Well she asked for it. I wasn't going to sugarcoat it.

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

you sound like you have some well-deserved anger - she needs to understand that

parents are supposed to be around - she probably gave you a better life by giving you up - but that doesn't mean it has to feel good.

I'm sorry for your pain

SylviaStarr · F

@Newandimproved: THANSK but she didn't give us up for adoption. She cheated on my dad

Newandimproved · 61-69, M

ohhhh
yeah, I'd be pissed too then