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I'm I right thinking this?

He never gets up at night with baby, his excuse is he sets off work at 6. Because he works he don't get up with baby, this in my eyes makes him a lazy shit.... Am I right saying this?
I have to agree with RadiantRuby. If he goes to work and falls asleep there, he might not have a job, and you and baby might not have a home to stay up in.

Try to explain calmly that you are exhausted and would really appreciate it if he could take over on a weekend night so you could get some decent sleep. It's possible he's afraid he'll do something wrong. Maybe you could walk him through what he'd need to do.

If that doesn't work, maybe a friend will stay over now and again to help you out so you can get some sleep. Some men don't really warm up to fatherhood until they're not afraid they'll break the baby.
Bushmanoz · 56-60, M
@Mamapolo2016@MiraRoss I have to agree that he may lack the confidence to look after the baby. I totally disagree that he can't help because he works, a nap during the day isn't the same as a good nights sleep, and a lack of sleep one or 2 nights a week won't hurt him.

It's quality time with the baby he will never get again, help him figure out what to do, and that the baby isn't made of glass and he should help, he will enjoy it.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Bushmanoz he was had three other kids with another woman, so he should know what to do. He's 45
Bushmanoz · 56-60, M
@MiraRoss ah..ok, things I should ask beforehand. Then tell him you need a break, I think he should be giving you one, even one night would make a world of difference.
Not that he shouldn’t be involved but not really. Not if he works and you don’t.
ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M
No, you're not right in calling him a lazy shit.

Having said that - sleep deprivation is a very real and potentially dangerous thing and you need to find a way to convince him that even getting up with the baby once a night for one or two nights a week would help enormously.
Flip the tables here. Let's say that you are the one working your husband's job and he is home all day with the baby, then when you come home at night, he's complaining because you don't get up with baby in the night. How would you feel then???

In fairness, you are being too harsh on him. Baby will be disturbing his sleep too, yet he still gets up and goes to work where you have the chance to catch up on your sleep during the day.

If you can't get baby into the routine of taking a nap, then you could try involving family and friends with looking after baby for a few hours so you can nap and have a little me time, or even get a babysitter for a few hours here and there.
Darci ·
Unless you both work. If youre at home and non working then I can understand that on his part as you can get your rest later but if youre both working and stressed try and compromise.
Darci ·
@MiraRoss Try and talk to him? I meant your schedule not both of you. He works so hes doing his part and your part comes in which you have to work your schedule to suit all your needs. Im not saying its easy but...you know the drill.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@Darci that's what I'm saying I did have a schedule for us but he ruin it when he have a week off work. He does what he wants when he think it fit. I've chat to him many times. We have another baby on the way aswell
Darci ·
@MiraRoss I suggest counselling. If he doesnt tag along go on your own. I hope you can find a solution soon.
SW-User
It's his baby too, he needs to give you a break every now and again
Even if I worked and she stayed at home with the kid I’d still get up to give her a break, because I love my girl and she gives me that sweet stuff and I’m not a total asshole and domestic tranquility and all that shit
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@DrawntoaDistance I don't expect everyday just now and again
During the night if you don't work he needs to sleep while you get up with the baby. During the day he needs to help and let you nap before he goes to sleep.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@MrFreeeeeze he sets off work at 6am and gets home for 5pm
Before I answer do you work as well or your a stay at home mom!
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@RadiantRuby I stay at home
@MiraRoss I will blatantly say, your wrong in this case! You have to stay up with the baby and go back to sleep during the day. Since he's working he can not do that. It's selfish for you to challenge him
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@RadiantRuby she don't sleep in the day and when she does I have to do chores aswell so never get a nap
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MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SW-User yes maybe we should try this might do us some good. We have another baby on the way. I just need to get something sorted. If I end up being up with both don't think I could stand it
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MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@SW-User i do try my best. Thank you
SW-User
My daughter has 4 kids. The youngest two months old. She has a full time job and so does her husband. Neither complain but work together raising those kids. You two need to sit down and talk while baby is sleeping and work out compromises in a calm way.
gregloa · 61-69, M
You’ve got to train babies. Don’t put them to bed too early. Put them to bed later and they should sleep all night for the most part. Work on training your other baby also, that is your husband.
MiraRoss · 31-35, F
@gregloa she gets up around 6am so I try get her to have a sleep around 1 or 2
xixgun · M
Yes. He helped make the baby, it's his job to help take care of the baby as well.
Bushmanoz · 56-60, M
I have to add, I missed the "lazy shit" part. I am assuming thats you being exhausted and venting, but if you have a bloke who works a good job, he's not a lazy shit. A lot of women would love to have a bloke who works

 
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